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Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by flyandscan88 »

fleddr wrote: post #314
Thiez wrote: post #219

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But one can detect and judge appearance much more quickly (instantly, in most cases) than personality. It seems much more efficient to select those you consider physically attractive first and then date to check for a compatible character, than the other way round. Just like (excepting bisexuals) most of us instantly disqualify 3.5 billion people as potential partners for being the wrong sex, even if they might have…

You're right, but my point is that by slightly relaxing the physical criteria, you get a wider selection of personalities. For example, it's ridiculous to ask for an exact height. Height is a spectrum. By demanding 6" or taller, you can't seriously justify how somebody that is 5"9 is an absolute deal breaker. Similarly, if you're not attracted to fat people, you could still consider somebody a little overweight. Weig…

I've made this point too. By strictly limiting your physical standards you are also limiting your exposure to different personalities.

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Post by thundergolfer »

emptybits wrote: post #118

> “Then I insert a rod — we call it a nail or a rod — that goes inside the bone. The rod is magnetic and it has gears. Then there’s an external device that communicates with the nail. And over time, little by little, it lengthens out the nail.” The lengthening happens gradually. “We usually say about a millimeter a day, until they get to their desired height.” The "external device that communicates with the nail" par…

I’ve had this surgery 4 times, and the latest was 2019 where I used this “external device”. It’s using magnetism to manipulate the nail. You place it over the right spot on your leg and it makes ‘back and forth, back and forth’ type noises.

Definitely no internal computers involved.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by [deleted] »

qayxc wrote: post #334
thaumasiotes wrote: post #63

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> In Japan, it used to be a necessity for women to use extremely tight shoes in order to contain feet growth You've confused Japan with China.

> You've confused Japan with China. I think not: https://heianjapanweb.wordpress.com/2016/10/17/blog-post-tit...

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Post by kortilla »

nradov wrote: post #525
aortega wrote: post #402

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Women don't go for average, they go for 20% top percentile or higher. That's the Pareto principle and most mammals follow the same rule.

Obviously those percentages can't be accurate. Just look around. The average person at age 35 is in a long-term heterosexual relationship. That's still the default. Not everyone, but way more than 20%.

> The average person at age 35 is in a long-term heterosexual relationship.

Mode maybe, but not the mean.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by DavidVoid »

Like nose jobs this feels like the wrong solution to what really should be an almost non-existent problem. If you're very short or have mismatched leg lengths this sounds great (just like how nose jobs are great for people who have abnormally shaped noses), but I really hope people don't end up feeling pressured into it like they do into nose and boob jobs.

That said, I think it's something people should be allowed to do (as long as it's safe enough), but we should be very careful with letting this be pushed on younger and more impressionable people.

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Post by Broken_Hippo »

trophycase wrote: post #422
paulcole wrote: post #131

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> Except that in dating, women overwhelmingly prefer men over 6’ Is this actually true? > if you are short, you are very likely to die alone This also seems like nonsense.

Yes, height is the single biggest determining factor for attractiveness in men. This is obvious both in data, and if you've ever talked to women.

I don't know where you are getting your information from. I've talked to plenty of women. Heck, I am on of those. And I've talked to folks that aren't women, too.

It isn't obvious. I've personally never considered height as a qualifier. I've known folks that prefer someone taller than themselves but they wouldn't turn down a shorter man. The preference isn't going to make someone pass, but more akin to preferring dark hair over light hair. You see, preferences don't always add up to action and most folks I've known wouldn't pass on someone because of height.

But if you are only using information from dating apps, your information is going to be seriously skewed for everyone. I might not always care about height, but if you are giving me a list of attributes and I'm looking for casual sex - I'm probably going to choose depending on my whims at the time. Height can make some positions better or worse, after all.

It is also possible that men think height is more important because they think height is important, much like overly muscled comic characters are overly muscled to appeal to men.

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Post by chii »

alphabettsy wrote: post #610
chii wrote: post #562

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i would claim that incels have existed in the past, but there wasn't a convenient way to gather and confide. With the advent of the internet and anonymity, it's easy to gather and confide. I dont know if you would consider this self-reinforcing though. Saying that this group is self-reinforcing would imply that homosexuals gathering online to talk and confide are similarly self-reinforcing.

> Saying that this group is self-reinforcing would imply that homosexuals gathering online to talk and confide are similarly self-reinforcing. It doesn’t imply that at all. Sexual attraction isn’t reinforced by being around a given orientation. Go hang out with gay people exclusively for a few weeks and let me know if you find yourself attracted to the same sex.

> Sexual attraction isn’t reinforced by being around a given orientation.

exactly - and i'm saying that incels aren't self-reinforcing either.

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Post by shortzportz »

ummonk wrote: post #430
miramardesign wrote: post #200

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Brother do what I did move to south America, the dollar goes a long way and the ladies love their short kings. I'm amazed walking around here in Argentina how many couples where the woman is a head taller than the guy. Spoiled american women won't go for a guy a head taller than her.

I don't understand how some men will adopt the belief that they're doomed to die alone and would rather accept this fate than simply move to a better dating scene, or just get a mail order marriage.

Well, some will get limb-lengthening surgery.

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Post by flyandscan88 »

throwaway515 wrote: post #168
aortega wrote: post #99

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>there aren't really downsides to short stature in modern life It even have several health benefits. Except that in dating, women overwhelmingly prefer men over 6', and very small differences like 5'7 vs 5'9 double or triple the matches in online dating sites. If we are talking about 5'6 vs 6'0 the difference is ridiculous, like over 200X more matches. Women even divorce short men at double the rate of tall men. Thos…

> Basically this means that in modern dating, if you are short, you are very likely to die alone and this trend will only get worse in the future. I'm 5'6, and after almost 15 years of dating sites to modern dating apps, I have indeed accepted that yes, I will very likely die alone. My therapist has even half-seriously suggested I try lying about my height, and qualms aside, from the studies I've read, any plausible-…

move to an east coast city, wait a few years (older women care less about this stuff), get in good shape, start drinking and going to bars/meetups/events, especially related to your hobbies
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