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Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by johnny22 »

dlevine wrote: post #311

I'm a bit over 5'8". I always suspected that online dating was a bit more challenging because of my height. But when I looked at the numbers, I was doing fine at getting dates. The problem was actually that I wasn't confident enough on dates and didn't really know what I wanted, so the dates rarely went anywhere. I did a lot of personal development work over a period of 10+ years. At some point, dating got a lot easi…

> But when I looked at the numbers, I was doing fine at getting dates. The problem was actually that I wasn't confident enough on dates and didn't really know what I wanted, so the dates rarely went anywhere.

The problem most dudes could be having, but don't, because they let BS stop them. Instead we could all be messing up here :)

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Post by littlecranky67 »

Is women's preference of tall men a US thing? I hear this very often from mostly US based media, but I think in Europe this is a less common preference - also there are some countries (especially southern european) where you would have very few men above 6'0.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by rayiner »

kingkawn wrote: post #513
rayiner wrote: post #439

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If your goal is to settle down—as seems to be a commonly expressed desire in this thread—you might find that conservative women are more like minded, for obvious reasons.

What are those reasons?

Conservative women are more likely to value traditional family structures and gender roles, and thus place a higher priority on getting married and having kids. Even controlling for age, etc., conservatives are 25% more likely to be married than liberals.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by beowulfey »

aeze wrote: post #505
throwaway515 wrote: post #168

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> Basically this means that in modern dating, if you are short, you are very likely to die alone and this trend will only get worse in the future. I'm 5'6, and after almost 15 years of dating sites to modern dating apps, I have indeed accepted that yes, I will very likely die alone. My therapist has even half-seriously suggested I try lying about my height, and qualms aside, from the studies I've read, any plausible-…

I'm 5'5, pretty average (ie. not rich or particularly physically attractive), and I've consistently had attractive romantic partners my entire life. US-based, metropolitan area if that matters. I don't really have any advice, but I really don't think your height is limiting you. Don't get me wrong, it's definitely harder than if you were six inches taller, but it's not that bad. It's one factor of many that affects y…

Yes at the very least it’s important not to hide it because it acts as a great filter for those who do care about it (which I’ve never been bitter about either—we all have preferences in attractiveness)

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by FooBarWidget »

throwaway515 wrote: post #168
aortega wrote: post #99

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>there aren't really downsides to short stature in modern life It even have several health benefits. Except that in dating, women overwhelmingly prefer men over 6', and very small differences like 5'7 vs 5'9 double or triple the matches in online dating sites. If we are talking about 5'6 vs 6'0 the difference is ridiculous, like over 200X more matches. Women even divorce short men at double the rate of tall men. Thos…

> Basically this means that in modern dating, if you are short, you are very likely to die alone and this trend will only get worse in the future. I'm 5'6, and after almost 15 years of dating sites to modern dating apps, I have indeed accepted that yes, I will very likely die alone. My therapist has even half-seriously suggested I try lying about my height, and qualms aside, from the studies I've read, any plausible-…

I am the same height as you and now married. 10-15 years ago I came to the conclusion that dating sites and apps are the last places I should try. They encourage people to pre-judge you based on superficial characteristics that you can never win. It's simply not a fair fight. I've found that I stood a better chance in face to face situation: at least then I can display unique characteristics rather than just be a sheet of specs.

My wife also happens to be shorter than me and she has never been on any dating site.

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Post by prawn »

thrower123 wrote: post #151

I wish I'd hit 6'6" like I was supposed to, according to the old wive's tale method of doubling your height at two years old. I could have dunked easily, instead of just that one golden time I jumped freakishly high.

Funny you should mention that - I remember when younger that we measured my younger brother at two, and he grew up to hit the predicted height, reaching 6'9". Played basketball professionally. When he outgrew me as a teenager, my only chance in one-on-one was to play rougher and call no fouls. My dunks were on the school outdoor court with a slightly bent-down ring!

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Post by midjji »

screye wrote: post #458
aortega wrote: post #99

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>there aren't really downsides to short stature in modern life It even have several health benefits. Except that in dating, women overwhelmingly prefer men over 6', and very small differences like 5'7 vs 5'9 double or triple the matches in online dating sites. If we are talking about 5'6 vs 6'0 the difference is ridiculous, like over 200X more matches. Women even divorce short men at double the rate of tall men. Thos…

200X more matches 200 x 0 = 0 ;( Jokes aside, percieved attractiveness privilege is by far the most prominent form of discrimination in society today. (After wealth) Watching good.looking people coast through hard things purely because doors mysteriously open for them, is one of those things that you'd never believe it unless you see it. Height is obviously the most prominent of those features among men. Sadly, it is…

And because changing your sexual preferences is notoriously easy, women can just do that...

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by FooBarWidget »

R0b0t1 wrote: post #511
ummonk wrote: post #430

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I don't understand how some men will adopt the belief that they're doomed to die alone and would rather accept this fate than simply move to a better dating scene, or just get a mail order marriage.

They adopt this belief based on repeated experience. You're going to take their entire life of observations and tell them to just try harder? What do you think they're doing?

I've seen lots of people (in other contexts) keep failing and give up simply because they are too rigid in their thinking and refuse to try other ways.

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Post by workOrNah »

shortzportz wrote: post #425
omginternets wrote: post #160

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Again, I recognize the injustice you are facing. But surely you can recognize that there are important, meaningful differences with respect to racial discrimination? To put it differently: I object to your sense of proportion.

No omginternets, you are wrong here. Heightism and racism really is the same thing. If someone who is 160 cm doesn't get the manager job because however is recruiting don't believe his subordinates would respect him because of his lack of stature, then that is just as bad as a black person would't get the manager job because perhaps his subordinates don't respect black people. The point is how limiting the discrimina…

> Heightism and racism really is the same thing.

The mental gymnastics is astounding

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Post by gkop »

eightails wrote: post #380
xvector wrote: post #221

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Historical context does not influence whether an action is right or wrong in itself. You should not need atrocities to be recorded in history to tell you if you are doing the right thing.

Deja vu, I have been in this place before. It's amazing how circular the responses in this comment thread are getting. There appears to be disagreement on the surface, but in reality almost everyone is presenting a view which is at least compatible with each other's -- if not in direct agreement.

One side is equivocating “shortism” with racism. The other side is pointing out that that’s fucked up.
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