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Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by tsol » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:14 AM UTC

dqpb wrote: post #423

throwaway7266 wrote: post #338

I'm a guy of median height and great fitness, and I had a partner recommend limb lengthening in passing to me once. At the time, I had no idea what it even was but became disgusted as I learned the details. When I asked her why she would ever recommend such a thing, she said it was a joke. However, she had also purchased some pairs of 3 inch elevator shoes for me (also had no idea these were a thing) and insisted I w…

I find it very strange that a partner would want this. Presumably the desire for a taller mate is fundamentally a desire for taller children. The procedure is obviously not inherited. This must have just been a cruel strategic denigration.

Why does anyone want to control their partner? I'm not sure exactly but it stinks of narcissism and shallowness

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by erosenbe0 » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:15 AM UTC

chrisseaton wrote: post #189

thangalin wrote: post #158

For folks in this thread making statements such as, "I don't see how one can dictate to others what they should find attractive," the negative social stigmas towards men of short stature go far beyond physical attraction. (There's absolutely nothing wrong with women finding taller men attractive.) https://twitter.com/heightismxposed Swap "short guy" for "Jew" in the quotations from those twits that have nothing to do…

Even people I respect use 'short' as some kind of slur against people they don't like. For example against Putin. (Doesn't matter what you think of Putin - slurs based on personal appearance are always wrong against anyone full stop.)

But isn't it okay to make fun of Trump's penchance for the orange makeup appearance? So long as it is firmly in the realm of choice and not hiding a medical skin condition or other immutable characteristic, isn't it fair game?

(To be clear, this question applies to certain kinds of public figures and not the shy kid in the schoolyard)

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by ss108 » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:15 AM UTC

Xeronate wrote: post #354

teaearlgrey-hot wrote: post #317

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That would require the persons in question to self-reflect. It’s not often a process that people who denigrate others generally engage with.

And following that I think people need to think about if they really want a person that thinks that. I'm 5'10" and feel like I do fine in the market despite not being over 6 foot and not mentioning my job or any of the other stuff people don't want to be judged on. I'm sure plenty of girls pass on me, but I truly wouldn't want to be with them anyway.

...you're not short. facepalm

According to the article, if you're in the US, that's an inch above average.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by np_tedious » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:19 AM UTC

buran77 wrote: post #308

jeffbee wrote: post #237

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Well that's an interesting response. Surveyed women of median height prefer men of above-median height. But a D cup bra size is below the median for American adult females (which is a 34DD). I have no idea why popular imagination believes the bra size scale goes from A to D. Edited with context: The point is that men don't just prefer larger and larger breasts; there is a peak in preference for medium breast sizes[1]…

> But women do prefer as tall a man as they can get That doesn't seem to be what the study says: > women are most satisfied when their partner was 21 cm taller Same as with breasts there's a drop off at some point, it's just that in the case of height it's relative. And from personal experience, I have been rejected repeatedly for being too tall, as in the difference between myself and the prospective partner was dee…

No. All women want a man 8ft+ tall

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by at_a_remove » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:19 AM UTC

I have mentioned this before, but I used to work at a dating service pre-Web popularity. People could state their preferences and also how important that preference is. I handled almost all aspects of the business, including the data entry of preferences. And I found out that women as a trend really really care about height. They cared about it when they wrote it down and the ones who said they didn't care? Ended up accepting dates from or asking out the taller guys. It was a painful eye-opener for me.

Several years ago, there was a guy on Twitter, "heightism" or something, who just re-tweeted crappy things women tweeted about "short guys," much of it in a vein like "ugh, why do they even exist?" I think he got banned but probably resurfaced.

It doesn't matter what people profess under duress, but with whom they go home.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by Zenbit_UX » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:29 AM UTC

trompetenaccoun wrote: post #463

cercatrova wrote: post #382

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> There's really no difference between a person proudly declaring they only like "white" people and a person declaring they only like "tall" people. People can like whoever they want to like. Some people may only like those of a certain height, weight, race, class, and any other attribute you may want to think of, but it is not necessarily wrong. It is up to each individual to have the freedom to date whoever they wi…

Racism is not just bad when it's phrased in a negative way. I can say I only like living next to white people because that's my "preference". That is still racist, the same way it is racist if you prefer to only date people of a certain skin color. The fact that many people do not see any issues with such statements says a lot about their relation with the idea of human races. Much of society still very much believes…

> That is still racist, the same way it is racist if you prefer to only date people of a certain skin color.

That's not racists at all, that's just a person's personal preference for what they find attractive, and it often can't be helped.

We develop our models of what we find attractive early in our development by what we are exposed to.

It scares me a little that you don't know this, yet feel confident enough in your knowledge to type out these words.

Is it racist if I only like blonds? No, but that does rule out more than a few races of people that can't naturally grow blond hair. You're allowed to have physical preferences for certain traits. What you shouldn't do though is treat people differently because they don't have those traits that you value.

What would be racist is if I said I only hire [insert race], or I only let [insert race] people rent my condo.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by aortega » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:29 AM UTC

johnny22 wrote: post #418

aortega wrote: post #402

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Women don't go for average, they go for 20% top percentile or higher. That's the Pareto principle and most mammals follow the same rule.

so you're saying you've never had a date. I'm like 5'8 maybe 5'9 depending on when you measure me. it's not that hard to get a date. I even have computer nerd chub.

I'm an old man with children. Fortunately when I was dating, internet almost didn't exist. Women barely had any choice except the guys they saw everyday. Now is a total different world.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by astrange » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:31 AM UTC

w0mbat wrote: post #486

astrange wrote: post #266

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Just date taller women. The fixation on this is a cope mainly found in middle-height American white women, nobody else cares.

Tall women are easy to get dates with, well unless they are the fashion model types who are hot enough to get the in-demand tall guys. There are lots of cute tall women who are unfairly neglected. I'm average height and was married to a 5' 11" woman for a while. It always felt weird. It's much more comfortable for me to be with a woman who is a similar height, or a touch smaller, just for ergonomic reasons like how i…

My girlfriend is 5'11" (and taller than me, and a model, dancer, etc etc) and yes it is a bit hard to reach standing, but I figure that's a common human experience. Sitting down and such you don't even notice.

I haven't asked if the concept of needing an even taller guy has ever occurred to her, but the even stranger one of either of us caring if she's wearing heels sure hasn't come up.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by dynjo » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:31 AM UTC

I bet there is a direct correlation to Instagram usage here, particularly filters that allow you to lengthen your legs in this particular case.

Instagram is a ticking time bomb of mental health problems related to self image issues, particularly in younger women.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by erosenbe0 » Sun, May 01, 2022, 4:32 AM UTC

stickfigure wrote: post #375

chrisseaton wrote: post #323

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But that's still a fucked-up thing to say - as if being taller is some kind of better thing and his courage makes him taller?

Would it be better if I said: Courage makes you bigger (admittedly it's phrased better that way because it's more indirect, but now we're analyzing glib four-word jokes)

This line of thinking ends badly for the 6'4" muscular guy [particularly with a dark complexion] when he ends up in a jury trial. Size jokes seem to have a negative impact on all men.