Yet the money we paid does not have this property.
The money works 100% for the recipient and we retain no influence over it at all. We can't say what it get's spent on or poison it's performance so that it works for us instead of them somehow. We hand it over and it becomes 100% theirs and it works 100% normally, and does so forever, and with no strings.
There is no amount of rationalizing or explaining or excusing that resolves that simple fact.