No one has mentioned this so I will. Get a girlfriend! someone who understands you and talks you through your depression, someone who is on your side as you fight with your dad, someone who makes a hot dish for you when you are hungry, someone who will massage your shoulders and feet after a long day of job hunting. It is amazing how many successful men have that someone behind their backs because they too have failed many times and its her who picks her husband up and cheers him up as he goes out and conquers the world
I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.
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#212Earlier quoted context omitted.
Did you ever see the Malcolm in the Middle episode where Lois tries to use therapist techniques such as parroting on Malcolm? (S5E15 - page 6 http://www.malcolminthemiddle.co.uk/episodes/transcripts/eng... ) There's another (S2E8) where Malcolm fakes a breakdown so he can get out of a dorky class thing by talking to the school counselor. (Ed: I don't mean this as evidence, just a comedic primer for the general idea.)…
This comment completely misses the point about depression. A person who is actually depressed is likely to need assistance navigating out of that state. Being smart etc. isn't the cure.
Being too smart for your own good can lead to depression in the first place. To get out of that trap you often do need someone to talk to that offers a different perspective. Intelligence is not the issue here. Experience is.
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#213So, here's my story; I tell it occasionally when stories like yours come up. I had no college experience, but did manage to jump right in to a good I.T. job while I was still in high school, and from there into an even better I.T. job in another state where I made more money than I knew what to do with. (I've never been good with money, and didn't understand what "savings" meant.) I worked there until suddenly one da…
"So, if your friends are giving you a hard time, tell 'em to knock it the hell off. Or find new friends."
Yes to this 100%. Most people go through life trying to pull others down to their level. Fuck them. There are also plenty of people who support each others' dreams.
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#214a story, my story
i quit my job, a good job, i was (web) business developer, had to oversee a few coders, code a little bit myself, tell other companies what they should code for us, talked in big meetings, had a great time with my boss and co-workers and the prospect of becoming a COO in time.
i quit, it was 2004, i was 26 and the web was in a shitty state (this was before web 2.0 and IE had 90 market share). i wanted to do something else. start my own company. i had a lot of ideas and a high quality half baked plan.
the first day of my self-employment i jumped over a wall, broke my knee, badly. i was in hospital for 2 months. i could not walk for 4 months. my mother is dead, i do not talk to my father much. i had a 6 year old child.
after this i was broke, i was more than broke.
i decided to get a job again. it was the worst job possible. i hated every second. 4 months later i quit again.
this was the worst of times - i thought my life was over.
- and -
i was wrong. i was unbelievable wrong.
it was the most important time of my adult life (so far). you can only recognize the good parts of life if you have experiences some bad parts.
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#215I never really post on HN (even though I should) and saw this post and had to respond. First, if you ARE VERY SERIOUS about suicide, please seek help as others have mentioned. I suspect you're simply very sad and venting, but please don't do anything rash. Next, please listen to/watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI And then this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlfKdbWwruY Perspective is the first th…
Damn, good story. Thanks for posting it. That's a hard landing you did at age 16. I can pretty much guarantee that would have ruined me.
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#216Well if it makes you feel any better when I was 20 I was a high-school drop out working in fast food and STILL living with my parents. Things got better and then they got worse, but then they got much better again. Every time life took dips I got better at dealing with them and chances are you will too.
You are young, you can take chances now and you should. Someday taking chances may not be choice you can easily make anymore.
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#217This is why love HN.... it is such a wonderful community.
Hang in there Bro...there are many like you and who have been like you out there!!
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#218I am 30, I quit my job in USA a few months ago, moved back to India, wife is still living in USA, have been living with parents since then and have been driven to madness at home with their constant advice and criticism. All of this for a slim chance to succeed in what I want to do putting all my tiny life savings into this one basket.
But you know what, I am hopeful. I am hopeful that I can do something meaningful in the next one year that I have been given. I am hopeful that I can push myself to the next level (much more maybe). I am hopeful that I can rediscover myself. I am hopeful that I can maybe make a small dent in my own universe. I am hopeful that I can feel proud about myself. The way I see it is even failure is a success for me, because I have all these hopes.
I am happy I got this chance at 30, I know I will not get this anytime later with many more commitments I might make. I often wonder at times, if I had the maturity of my 30 when I was 20, I would be so much more willing to do this again and again.
While I can certainly understand your pain of what you consider failure, I feel you are rushing to make this call giving on hope. You have another 10 glorious years before you feel you din't do enough of what you have been able to do now. Step out of home, take a couple of days break (if financially feasible), write on a piece of paper what you want and how you can get there next. Taking these chances should make you proud, cos look around you, your friends are clinging on to that so called steady income, slipping away in their comfort zone.
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#219if there is anything you can take from steve jobs dealth, is that life is way to short to care about small things. follow your heart and keep your head up. they're a lot of people who don't have roofs over their head or food to eat, or water to drink. you will bounce back smile man :)
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#220if there is anything you can take from steve jobs dealth, is that life is way to short to care about small things. follow your heart and keep your head up. they're a lot of people who don't have roofs over their head or food to eat, or water to drink. you will bounce back smile man :)