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Ask HN: How do you avoid video game addiction?

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Re: Ask HN: How do you avoid video game addiction?

#121

    > Is it possible to have a "healthy" amount of playing?
Yes, it is but for some of us it isn't.

I can't do it. I've been trying for years. I don't consider myself a gamer as I don't play games for a hobby like most people. I see games coming out and I'm not interested in them, gaming per se doesn't interest me but let me tell you something, there are a few games that I would play 24/7.

So what do I do? No matter what I don't play them. Well, actually I do but not alone, only with friends. If I can't coop with someone I don't play. This is tricky too because if you have many friends playing at all hour you'll find someone to play with, so keep your number of gaming buddies low. Play with your wife a couple times a week, have fun, enjoy yourselves, then leave the game until the next time.

Re: Ask HN: How do you avoid video game addiction?

#122
I used to play a lot of videogames (specifically LoL but also any big anticipated titles I was interested in). I think for me it was for a few reasons:

* I had far, far less stuff to do. I was in an easy degree path without a job, and surrounded myself with people in similar circumstances, so I had time to play games for 6-8 hours a day and a wealth of validation from my peers.

* When I wasn't playing games, it was to do other things that I was either obligated to do (schoolwork), or that also had an element of skill progression (music), or that were social activities (also music).

* I had no real need to remain available on short notice for anybody or anything, so unpausable games with 40+ minute match times were easy to fit into my life.

When I started working as a SWE, suddenly most of that stuff was no longer true, and in the USA no one looks at someone who works 8+ hours a day as a degenerate. So I'd wear myself out doing that, and constantly read up on bettering myself as a programmer. Being good at competitive videogames started to become less and less of my identity, and it was supplanted by becoming better at my job and finding financial success. That addicted me in its own right (I used to also spend way too much time watching lines go up on stock trading apps, though thankfully I've managed to curb that too).

During my busiest time (working + master's + in a relationship + fostering kittens), I went weeks/months without ever touching a videogame. I'd still read about them or watch videos, but I always felt like there was something either better or more important for me to do at any given time.

It helps too that the social aspect of LoL for me was also dying at the time. The people I played with were on less and less, and I was also getting fed up of the game's formula after so many years.

Sometimes you can't help but have a bad addiction and need to go cold turkey, but for games that don't have such an addictive quality I find that just having a lot to do at any given time helps curb my tendencies to binge.

Re: Ask HN: How do you avoid video game addiction?

#125

I can't answer your question directly but I can share my experience. I put ~3k hours into a fast paced fast twitch competitive multiplayer in around 3 or 4 years, significantly increased in 2020 of course. I had some thought that maybe it was addiction, for sure part of the problem was covid, but I also made a number of friends and so it was social too. Eventually the social scene kind of fell over for me, covid loos…

> once I identified that as the ultimate source of enjoyment and a lacking feature I organically lost interest.

This is a very good point. I'm from the "Inception School of Change", in that change only comes from within. You "need to go deeper" and find the root cause of your conflict, and don't try to change it. Just seeing it is the change you need, the rest follows organically. The question is the answer.

Re: Ask HN: How do you avoid video game addiction?

#126
Install the games inside a Qemu virtual machine. Put the VM file inside an external drive, connect it only Thursday nights

Maybe start a new game. All games that I play over and over, alone, similar matches, like CS, I just uninstall it. And try something new

Maybe a different style, puzzle like Portal, Talos... Or open world like Valheim, or Raft, great to relax. Sea of thieves 50% at the moment

Re: Ask HN: How do you avoid video game addiction?

#130
Not sure if this helps. Before you were born I wanted to become a game developer. But I found both games and (primitive versions of) social media to be so addictive that I went into another area and avoided games and social media for the next 25 years. I have tried to get into games since then b/c I have more time, but the spell has been broken.
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