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I don't believe much into self-improvement industry, in fact I believe it is largely snake oil. One of the things that I find most gross about this whole industry is pushing the idea that you need to be "fixed". This kind of industry desperately needs to sell you there's something wrong with you that needs to be repaired or improved in order to sell you the solution. That's not to say there is no good contents out th…
For professional development, I highly suggest a Kolbe A index assessment to better identify your natural energies for “doing things” (working style) and learn to harness those rather than force them to comply with external notions of “how it should be done.” I have considered mine daily for 7 years. It seems you are actively exploring the type of job you direct your attention towards and (hopefully) derive fulfillme…
Something i started doing which has been invaluable has been getting a therapist. Being a founder is freaking painful at times, working on yourself is a lot more than getting good at sales, taxes, technical skills...developing leadership skills and being great at it requires an upgrade not just to your IQ but your EQ. I've got a long way to go, but i feel this has been the largest improvement to me that i've ever man…
Something i started doing which has been invaluable has been getting a therapist. Being a founder is freaking painful at times, working on yourself is a lot more than getting good at sales, taxes, technical skills...developing leadership skills and being great at it requires an upgrade not just to your IQ but your EQ. I've got a long way to go, but i feel this has been the largest improvement to me that i've ever man…
I have a therapist but I'm thinking about stopping my sessions because I never felt that I needed it. I'm pretty well put together, not stressed or anxious, great people person, pretty much know exactly what I need to do all the time and good at getting stuff done. What are you supposed to talk about with a therapist if you don't really have any problems?
The most useful psychological technique I've found is Internal family systems (IFS). If you do it with a therapist, it can be very powerful, and mind bending, like a psychedelic trip. The way it helps productivity is when I can't motivate myself to do various tasks I use IFS to explore what's going on in my brain that fuels that procrastination. It takes me to memories and dusty corners of my brain that I rarely visi…
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I have a therapist but I'm thinking about stopping my sessions because I never felt that I needed it. I'm pretty well put together, not stressed or anxious, great people person, pretty much know exactly what I need to do all the time and good at getting stuff done. What are you supposed to talk about with a therapist if you don't really have any problems?
If you never felt you needed it, what motivated you to do it in the first place?
Replacing out parts of myself can be frightening, as if I forget my identity or become too brittle of a whole to sustain. In reality, a superorganism consisting of maximally diverse components flourishes exactly because of, not in spite of, its multidimensionality.
I will go towards whatever is insanely cool to me, because such things inspire and motivate me to grow.
I exist solely in my subjective experience of the world. I maximize the intensity of that experience by surrounding myself with those things I feel in my innermost to be awesome, even though I don't understand why. The very fact I don't understand them enables me to learn something new through those experiences, unlike a world filled with things I already comprehend, would.
I do whatever stimulates me, because I gain energy from it. Doing anything else drains energy, and friction slows down growth.
When I reflect upon myself honestly, I see that expending effort into things that bore me empirically does not bear fruit. All such things I feel are a necessity, as opposed to a joy to perform, are external pressures set on me by others. I know in my innermost what's important to me, and I do that (and only that) with all my being.
Limits hinder growth, so I seek awareness of and let go of artificial restrictions, and accept and overcome genuine ones.
Every shore of my consciousness expands into an ocean of uncertainty where the horizon gives no clue of other continents. On the beach stands a sign, "swimming forbidden". I realize a finite, isolated island gives no room for true growth, and swim towards the unknown. If the sign turns out to be justified and the waters toxic, I will build myself a boat. Soon the impassibility of the sea eases to mere obstacle; eventually into familiar substance through which movement is as effortless as a vacuum.
I play innocently with all things, because solutions to blocks to my growth are found in unexpected places only when I have the courage to study absolutely everything.
Nothing I know of evolves faster than a child who plays. Children need not protection from dangerous things, other than those I know to be lethal. Mistakes happen during play and things break, but that's part of the learning process.
I openly receive all information, because the world around me reflects myself back to me. This facilitates introspection and accelerates my growth.
I do not limit myself artificially by ignoring any piece of data, but weigh each bit by its inherent value in my belief system, irrespective of whence it came from. Thinking about uneasy things develops in me precisely what is my current weakness.
My evolution is an ongoing process. Every moment I'm more aware of my true self, and continue growing in the best manner I'm aware of. I am never complete, and never too incomplete to keep on growing.
I do not conjure up excuses for why I couldn't evolve further right now. Every moment I integrate the world into myself and grow more aware.
I share freely everything I know to those who want to study me, so that they too could grow faster towards mutual understanding.
Mutual understanding, community and harmony are the ultimate goals of my self-development process.
It might help to consider the common language of what I believe you're talking about. > self-development > inner work This is more commonly referred to as "self-improvement" or "self-help" (depending on if you think you're just improving yourself, or more specifically addressing something you consider to be a weakness or shortcoming.) It means developing your skills or learning new ones, and coming to a new understan…
That's a really good point and perspective. I would say that I am interested in solving a specific problem or serving a specific use case by improving what already exists (making it better using) through the process of building solutions (being a maker). Would that be more clear?
But I think you're trying to use generic high level language to describe your personal, specific niche. It doesn't really communicate anything.
Looking at your submission from yesterday, and your product submission, it sounds like you want to make products, and market them so they are successful, so you are successful. But this focus on finding a superfluous label doesn't seem like it's going to help you get there.
Two book recommendations, to refresh your mind if you've been too deep in "investing in inner growth" (can be a trap). - the Zhuangzi, translation by Burton Watson, which I've read many times. See the last two paragraphs of https://terebess.hu/english/chuangtzu.html about the useless tree - Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism by Chögyam Trungpa, which I haven't read except extracts, but it could be relevant to you…
I haven't got time to write a better comment, but stopping past to say that I've found Vertical Development the most helpful conceptual framework for my own growth and for making sense of others. As a mental model, it has applications from very basic to extremely rich and complex. I've worked as an eng/manager/executive coach and keep discovering new insights. I always enjoy discussing it more if you're interested