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I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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The first one is gaining just enough money that I can ponder the meaning of life. The second one is pondering the meaning of life.

I’m mostly just interested in the first one. That peace of mind is peace, and that’s good enough value from the treasure trove of value from the meaning of life for me. “Money isn’t everything but not having it is” - Kanye

And justice is incredibly expensive

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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> I've spent my whole life trying to find my purpose I've always been puzzled at how so many people expect to find "purpose". Nobody has "purpose". You weren't placed on Earth for a reason. You only exist due to the luck of your parents getting laid. And quite frankly, 99.9% of the population will be unremarkable, even if you restrict that 99.9% to first-world countries. I don't expect to have an impact on the world…

How are you so certain I wasn't place on Earth for a reason? I was caused, right? Sure, by my parents, but there is a regression to this causality.

If we keep ourselves within the physical domain, experimentally there is the documentation of a beginning to physical causes that we can observe, and an ordering to such causality which demonstrates its continuum in movement to this present position where I am overwhelmingly purposeful, because I am able to reason my ends which are to give people greater limits of happiness - which begins with making efforts at providing security to families so they can form their own purposeful lives.

Unless you are to claim that reasoning, such as mathematically, is a mistake? But how can that be true?

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

I’m mostly just interested in the first one. That peace of mind is peace, and that’s good enough value from the treasure trove of value from the meaning of life for me. “Money isn’t everything but not having it is” - Kanye

> “Money isn’t everything but not having it is” - Kanye The thing is returns start diminshing faster than people realize. Once you get yourself housed, fed and clothed its much more of a hamster wheel than people are often willing to admit to themselves, at the expense of their own happiness.

Most Americans aren't one traffic stop away from a huge legal bill AND medical bill (if you survive). For the rest of us, the returns diminish after a somewhat larger buffer.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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I wrote this back when I was 18, in response to the question “what kind of life do you want to live?” but I always come back to it. Something about it still resonates with me. “What kind of life do you want to live?” “A life full of color. I couldnt bear to have a boring life: I want my days to be full of joy and pain and laughter and success and failure and broken hearts and love. To be honest I don’t care where I e…

How has that worked out for you?

honestly, not too bad :). I don't really use it as a "follow this as a guiding design pattern" piece of advice, but I think the philosophy is really useful when dealing with relationships with people, and taking risks in life. Over the past years, thinking "how will I aestheticize my life" has led me to some really interesting + fulfilling relationships and let me experience a lot of life. Sure, I have gotten burnt quite a few times, but in hindsight I regret nothing. I think the pain and joy and people I've met from just putting myself out there have given me a lot of perspective on life.

That being said, I'm getting to the age where I think I'm ready to settle down a bit: this philosophy I think is most useful if you're young or lost and also don't have much responsibility.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Such an insipid argument. If we entertain the idea of a Creator and try to make logical sense of the world I think we'd find pretty quickly that it isn't as simple as "make suffering impossible". What does that mean? What are the constraints? A few solutions in no particular order: Don't create the world in the first place, attractive only to nihilists. Make cruelty on the part of humans impossible, easy to do withou…

I'll entertain your idea that god can't / shouldn't stop humans being cruel because of free will blah blah. Ok, god was powerful enough to create the world, why did they feel the need to also create mosquitos? or cancer? Why do they use their power to make a Hollywood actor win an oscar (oh they didn't? That's not what the actor claims. Who knows their god better?) but not use it to stop a young child being hit by a…

The general idea, at least in monotheism, is that God does not intervene on a minute by minute basis. Miracles are by definition exceptional circumstances that rarely occur. I don't think the majority of believers would agree that God would intend mosquitos or cancer to simply be a torment specially created to bedevil man. A better question would be why would God create a world in which such things are possible? Like many things surrounding religion, it is simply unknowable. We can speculate all we want but it won't change anything. However, it's not very honest to take such a simplistic view of the matter. My original comment was intended to get you to think of things from another perspective instead of simply blaming God for all the ills of the world and demanding divine intervention as proof of His existence and love. It's probably better to ask yourself how can I make the world a better place rather than rage against God for not doing so. Perhaps that is the point.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

#146
post #3

The first one is gaining just enough money that I can ponder the meaning of life. The second one is pondering the meaning of life.

I’m mostly just interested in the first one. That peace of mind is peace, and that’s good enough value from the treasure trove of value from the meaning of life for me. “Money isn’t everything but not having it is” - Kanye

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0QCBBDDd3AM

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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post #96

Here's a question that goes out to everybody: what happens if what you love can't bring you money? Either because it's not lucrative in the capitalist world, or because you won't be able to get good enough at it (e.g. you fell in love with the violin at age 45)...

Love has nothing to do with money. If you truly love something, you'll commit to it anyway. Otherwise, there's probably something you love more.

I recommend consulting the poets, and in particular, John Prine.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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So what did you two end up doing? I'm 52, and work is in a neat little compartment. It's not great, but it's not soul sucking, and has good PTO and a pension and financially everything's grand and on-track...but work and my career is no longer where I draw value. I could easily see finishing my career here, and I could also see having another job before retirement. (And, I could see retiring ASAFP if I could get the…

In my case, I am working on a project with a small NPO (Nonprofit 501c3). I'm the lone developer of a fairly ambitious iOS/iPadOS app that mixes a simple social graph with a geographic database. It's coming along great. Been at it for about a year and a half (over two years, if you count the backend I wrote -over ten, if you count the geographic DB, which I also wrote).

This is really where it’s at. I’m not even close to retirement age, just about to hit 40, but I really think often of retiring and how I want to spend more time working with the nonprofit I volunteer for. Developing software that has real users and really matters to people in the field. When I say I want to retire people always think that I want to sit in a sofa all day…no I want to retire from having to work for a living and work on things that make me feel like I’m doing something that matters.

Building useful software for an ngo that works in poor African countries and wouldn’t be able to afford an engineering team is what I want to do, not binge watch Netflix from my sofa.

NGO I mentioned: https://mindleaps.org

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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> I've spent my whole life trying to find my purpose I've always been puzzled at how so many people expect to find "purpose". Nobody has "purpose". You weren't placed on Earth for a reason. You only exist due to the luck of your parents getting laid. And quite frankly, 99.9% of the population will be unremarkable, even if you restrict that 99.9% to first-world countries. I don't expect to have an impact on the world…

You have a choice cynic or not being a cynic. All it is is a mental switch. Pick not cynic everytime. Even if you think it's a fantasy. It will change your life.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Trying to live my life the way Jesus taught.

I believe life and work have purpose. I think we should work hard and enjoy what we have. Not compare ourselves to others as you say.

I don't think death is the end. I think my work is to help look after this rock and contribute to society.

I think I need some framework beyond my own head to make sense of life, work and death.

As a younger man I would have said I have faith in Jesus and what's the harm if I am wrong?

I don't think like this anymore. I have journeyed with the teachings of Jesus for 30 years and look forward to meeting the man himself.

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