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Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by cfcosta »

FinanceAnon wrote: post #85

I've never heard of Alex Hormozi, but from googling it looks like he is a typical youtube guru selling scam courses on how to get rich. Seriously, I wouldn't listen to anything that he says.

I wouldn't say he's "one of the good ones" or anything like that. His currency is attention and trustworthiness, and that's what brings him good deals (he owns a VC firm), and his strategy is being brutally honest, even if sometimes a little bit cynical. Everyone seems to be aware of this trade, and I think he might have mentioned it at least once.

He doesn't have any programs or paid courses, his book is free.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by ChrisMarshallNY »

gcheong wrote: post #117
memcg wrote: post #77

Earlier quoted context omitted.

After 25 years in electronics manufacturing ( 250,000 employees, site closed), looking for a job at 55, I just refused to jump thru hoops and put up with BS. That was 10 years ago and I have no regrets.

What does this mean practically speaking? I’m 55 and just starting to look again now after being out of the workplace for 4 yrs.

In my experience, I found recruiters and screeners to be very condescending and, in some cases, downright nasty. In one case, it was all smiles, until they brought in the tech lead, and I was quickly given the bum's rush, after that.

Recruiters tended to "ghost" me, almost immediately upon finding out my age.

It was weird. I have a tremendous résumé, and they would contact me, gushing about it, then would suddenly have a "connection issue," after I told them my age.

I'd never hear from them again. I guess the industry is crawling with 30-year-olds, with 35 years of experience.

It's quite possible to get work. All of my employees got jobs again, but it took a couple of years, for a couple of them to find settled work. Most had to be contractor employees for a year or so. Our team was composed of very experienced C++ programmers. Absolutely top-shelf engineers.

They're doing fine, now, but it took a while. I just didn't feel like going through the agita.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by ChrisMarshallNY »

Damogran6 wrote: post #120
memcg wrote: post #77

Earlier quoted context omitted.

After 25 years in electronics manufacturing ( 250,000 employees, site closed), looking for a job at 55, I just refused to jump thru hoops and put up with BS. That was 10 years ago and I have no regrets.

So what did you two end up doing? I'm 52, and work is in a neat little compartment. It's not great, but it's not soul sucking, and has good PTO and a pension and financially everything's grand and on-track...but work and my career is no longer where I draw value. I could easily see finishing my career here, and I could also see having another job before retirement. (And, I could see retiring ASAFP if I could get the…

In my case, I am working on a project with a small NPO (Nonprofit 501c3). I'm the lone developer of a fairly ambitious iOS/iPadOS app that mixes a simple social graph with a geographic database.

It's coming along great. Been at it for about a year and a half (over two years, if you count the backend I wrote -over ten, if you count the geographic DB, which I also wrote).

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by Smithy1 »

My purpose is focusing on my spiritual path. 1)meditation 2)spiritual reading 3)spiritual practices: mantras and the like I don't do this for any "reward" but for its own sake. I acknowledge that my "eventual" goal is the return to God. That concept assumes reincarnation. I can't think of any other activity I can "take with me." I do it for the love of it.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by Smithy1 »

My purpose is focusing on my spiritual path. 1)meditation 2)spiritual reading 3)spiritual practices: mantras and the like I don't do this for any "reward" but for its own sake. I acknowledge that my "eventual" goal is the return to God. That concept assumes reincarnation. I can't think of any other activity I can "take with me." I do it for the love of it. This is an emphasis on the world of the soul rather than the personality.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by gcheong »

ChrisMarshallNY wrote: post #122
gcheong wrote: post #117

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What does this mean practically speaking? I’m 55 and just starting to look again now after being out of the workplace for 4 yrs.

In my experience, I found recruiters and screeners to be very condescending and, in some cases, downright nasty. In one case, it was all smiles, until they brought in the tech lead, and I was quickly given the bum's rush, after that. Recruiters tended to "ghost" me, almost immediately upon finding out my age. It was weird. I have a tremendous résumé, and they would contact me, gushing about it, then would suddenly ha…

Thanks for that. While I don't advertise my age I'm pretty sure the employment gap in my resume is putting them off and I'm getting a lot of the same response as you mentioned. But even before then it was getting harder to find a job and, after being told no thanks from one company where I, my recruiter, and their internal recruiter thought I for sure had it in the bag after multiple interview rounds I just figured it was a clear signal I had to find a different way - just not sure what that is yet and if it's even worth bothering with interviewing.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by rhn_mk1 »

Sohcahtoa82 wrote: post #108

> I've spent my whole life trying to find my purpose I've always been puzzled at how so many people expect to find "purpose". Nobody has "purpose". You weren't placed on Earth for a reason. You only exist due to the luck of your parents getting laid. And quite frankly, 99.9% of the population will be unremarkable, even if you restrict that 99.9% to first-world countries. I don't expect to have an impact on the world…

Everyone's a hero of their own story. People want to be important and acknowledged. Having no impact on others means an eternal lack of acknowledgement. That drives people to have a purpose, I think.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by brightstep »

Sohcahtoa82 wrote: post #108

> I've spent my whole life trying to find my purpose I've always been puzzled at how so many people expect to find "purpose". Nobody has "purpose". You weren't placed on Earth for a reason. You only exist due to the luck of your parents getting laid. And quite frankly, 99.9% of the population will be unremarkable, even if you restrict that 99.9% to first-world countries. I don't expect to have an impact on the world…

Sometimes (maybe most of the time) being a cynic is wholly justified.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by ChrisMarshallNY »

gcheong wrote: post #126
ChrisMarshallNY wrote: post #122

Earlier quoted context omitted.

In my experience, I found recruiters and screeners to be very condescending and, in some cases, downright nasty. In one case, it was all smiles, until they brought in the tech lead, and I was quickly given the bum's rush, after that. Recruiters tended to "ghost" me, almost immediately upon finding out my age. It was weird. I have a tremendous résumé, and they would contact me, gushing about it, then would suddenly ha…

Thanks for that. While I don't advertise my age I'm pretty sure the employment gap in my resume is putting them off and I'm getting a lot of the same response as you mentioned. But even before then it was getting harder to find a job and, after being told no thanks from one company where I, my recruiter, and their internal recruiter thought I for sure had it in the bag after multiple interview rounds I just figured i…

I just started making my age clear, up front. In many cases, they couldn't hang up, fast enough.

Not sure I'd recommend that. It probably comes across as "challenging." I just got tired of having my time wasted.

I wish you the very best of luck.

Re: I decided that I must live my life on my terms

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Post by memcg »

ChrisMarshallNY wrote: post #106
memcg wrote: post #77

Earlier quoted context omitted.

After 25 years in electronics manufacturing ( 250,000 employees, site closed), looking for a job at 55, I just refused to jump thru hoops and put up with BS. That was 10 years ago and I have no regrets.

Same here. I was 55, when I was looking.

I just want to look for ways to contribute to the lives of my family, friends and community. Both of my jobs were 50+ hours per week minimum and 1 hour daily commute. I missed a lot over years, and in the end I traded time with family for financial security. I wish I had worked just a little less and been better about leaving time and energy for others.
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