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How to work with me

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Re: How to work with me

#182
If someone handed me this when I first started working with them I wouldn't read it. If I was forced to I'd resent it, and them. I have a hard time imagining why you'd present this to a random you'd never met before, let alone someone you knew.

Re: How to work with me

#183
I’m sometimes slow in expressing what I really feel

I sometimes write messages when we should be talking instead. I know that’s not ideal, I’m working on it. In the meantime, please point it out to me.

I have two small kids at home.

Those are literally the only three useful sentences in that entire document. Everything else are the basic virtues of professional cooperation.

Re: How to work with me

#185

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'd rather work with someone who's honest about how they operate than with someone who uses action as a verb.

I believe it's probably a typo. My guess is "act on" was intended.

Saying "action," purposely, as a verb like that is somewhat common. It's business-speak much like "leverage" as a verb, though that one's become so common as to go unnoticed.

Re: How to work with me

#186

"How to work with me" sets the wrong tone at the start, giving orders. Maybe consider, "How I'd like to work with you", or "How we can best work together" or something.

Yes, I think you‘re right. Thank you for the feedback.

They didn't ask if you were ready to receive the feedback!

Joking aside, that thing stood out to me. Would you ever say no, isn't it then a social obligation to say yes? Or if you do say no, that person is just supposed to leave whatever unsaid until a potential future opportunity and in the meantime they'll have to still work with you? It seems odd from both sides.

Re: How to work with me

#187

This seems less like manual for a person and more a list of expectation and demands for how other people should act.

Agreed. One thing that just occurred to me is that this title does give the author the freedom to entirely dictate the contents of a guide on "how other people should act". Nobody will disagree with the contents since they say it's a personal thing of theirs, though judging by the thread the disagreement the title already instills might be worse.

Re: How to work with me

#190

If I received this I would do my best to steer clear of this person. Hopefully you put at least as much effort into acquiring social skills as telling people exactly how to communicate with you.

Did you even skim it? It starts with humility, shares that he believes his coworkers are vitally important and worthy of respect and support, then moves onto core values like empathy.

Like, its a little awkward, but based on writing samples I'd rather work with this David guy than with you.

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