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How to work with me

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Re: How to work with me

#21
My boss at my previous company created one of these with the intention of being “helpful”. It basically stated you should address me in this manner, use this form of communication etc. I asked him if he would be ok with me also creating a similar user manual telling him how I should be communicated with. He said it would be ok, as long as it did not contradict his user manual.

IMO, these seem to me to be a friendly way of dictating process to others.

Re: How to work with me

#23

These are becoming a trend and I think they can be useful if they are sincere like the one here. Especially as a way to onboard to new projects or teams in a remote/hybrid world. The challenge I've seen regarding user manuals however is that people immediately discount them. They aren't willing to sit down and think about how they want to operate as an individual. So they poorly write one instead of giving it effort.…

I can see them being useful, but honestly, this manual is too long. Give me the quick start guide I don't want to learn 35 rules and their context. Give me the five most important points that make you tick.

Yeah this user manual goes a bit too deep. It could easily be 1/3 the size and focus on what you said.

I think the author forgot to include the "me" part of these sections as generalized tips are not personal. EX: how to give me feedback -> 3 ways I enjoy getting feedback.

Re: How to work with me

#24
post #8

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…

> I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high maintenance"

Sounds like a lot like on-line dating profiles.

Re: How to work with me

#25
post #8

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…

The corporate language is a turn off. If we are dealing with human problems, the sterile corporate speak isn't going to get us to a solution.

Can you point to specific examples? This is very much a living document, always looking for ways to improve it.

Re: How to work with me

#26
Nice, but typically a manual written by oneself, I could write something similar about myself. But ask my wife to write one... I bet it will be quite different.

Re: How to work with me

#28
Cool, and then let's make it harassment to ignore the instructions in somebodies user manual (not just ignoring their pronoun preference), so everybody has to learn the user manual of all their colleagues by heart.

Re: How to work with me

#30

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The corporate language is a turn off. If we are dealing with human problems, the sterile corporate speak isn't going to get us to a solution.

Can you point to specific examples? This is very much a living document, always looking for ways to improve it.

The "My expectations when we work together" looks like it's copied directly from a HR boilerplate example somewhere. It sounds nice but I wouldn't know how to action any of that.

Also if you are my peer, you setting expectations like that is inappropriate.

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