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Re: I have quit my job

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Post by hans1729 »

claudiulodro wrote: post #140
411111111111111 wrote: post #69

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> Nobody looks back and says “eh, I wish I’d have worked more at [soulless job]” There are a lot of people which quit their "soulless" job and to chase their dream just to ultimately be forced to give up on them after loosing years of savings. I very much doubt that none of them regret leaving their jobs

It's tricky, because in the alternate universe those people are regretting wasting their life instead of trying to follow their dreams. The only situation that doesn't lead to some form of regret is the one where following the dreams works out.

Or one where pursuing them was still worth it for the lessons in/the pursuit of it.

Re: I have quit my job

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Post by awill88 »

vmception wrote: post #129

> On my therapist’s suggestion Where do you all find therapists? I see that its super trendy to have one now and admit it but at the byproduct of them being pretty booked! what do?

I interpret this as you may not have had previous experience with therapy that's focused on you. If I'm right, then my two cents is, avoid telehealth. The convenience is not worth it, the stakes are way too high and technology is nowhere near capable of replicating the intimate, human experience that you get (for free b/c the cost is tragically the same) by physically sitting across from another person.

Other than that, finding the right person requires a little bit of luck. I responded really well to a therapist who was an LMFT and focused on boundaries, family systems.. I did a little CBT with them, changed my life fundamentally. You may not need all that. Regardless, avoid telehealth unless you have to.

Re: I have quit my job

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Post by awill88 »

smordistan wrote: post #105
annie_muss wrote: post #45

I genuinely wish the author all the best, but I can't help but feel concerned. ADHD might be better named as "novelty addiction". I myself have quit jobs many times when I would have done better to stay put, always hunting for something new. If the author was successful as a freelancer and as an employee then he seems to have the ADHD under control well. That gives me hope that he will find his footing as he takes hi…

Does ADHD affect your ability to hold a committed relationship?

I'm no MD, but I would say it's more accurate to describe it as an inability to control impulses, which puts important relationship commitments at risk, romantic or otherwise.

Re: I have quit my job

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Post by [deleted] »

awill88 wrote: post #146
jxidjhdhdhdhfhf wrote: post #117

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So what if the author is privileged? Unless you're living in a mud hut and subsistence farming, you can count yourself among the privileged as well. I guess you don't get to write anything on the internet because you might offend someone, somewhere. I love hearing about how people make deliberate choices about their life and their work, even if they are starting with something more than the average person.

I love hearing it too, I'd like it to be well-received, even by those human beings living in "mud hut and subsistence farming" should they encounter their writing.

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Re: I have quit my job

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Post by Aeolun »

411111111111111 wrote: post #69
hans1729 wrote: post #16

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I disagree heavily with this. Lots of people make a living doing what they love/building a better world. Just because we normalized selling our attention to the highest fiscal bidder, doesn’t mean that the highest fiscal bid is actually valuable in terms of life quality. Nobody looks back and says “eh, I wish I’d have worked more at [soulless job]”. I think your perspective is extreme dystopian, and it makes me sad t…

> Nobody looks back and says “eh, I wish I’d have worked more at [soulless job]” There are a lot of people which quit their "soulless" job and to chase their dream just to ultimately be forced to give up on them after loosing years of savings. I very much doubt that none of them regret leaving their jobs

> I very much doubt that none of them regret leaving their jobs

Maybe in the moment. But savings don’t buy you anything when you’re dead. I’m inclined to believe that you’d later look back on that period of your life as ‘sure glad I did that when I could’.

There is plenty of time in one life to work for both dystopian corporations and follow your passion.

Re: I have quit my job

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Post by Aeolun »

ejb999 wrote: post #76
emptyfile wrote: post #64

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>Lots of people make a living doing what they love/building a better world. Really? America must be a great place then. Don't know anyone like that where I live. My doctor friends would be closest but they certainly don't have a good quality of life and their lives are quite dystopian.

How do you explain the ten's or hundreds of thousands of people in the world that already have financial freedom (i.e. enough in the bank to live comfortably the rest of their lives), and yet still get up everyday and goto work?

Unless you grew up to it, I think it’s really hard for humans to live a life of leisure.

Re: I have quit my job

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Post by Aeolun »

travoltaj wrote: post #130
gkop wrote: post #23

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I usually hear “resources” used in the abstract, which was grating the first time, but I’ve gotten over. Are you hearing that literally? Would you share an example sentence?

Very literally. "We'll get a new front-end resource soon". "We're opening two more backfills for backend resources". "We need a front-end resource to unblock this ticket". I have a interview on Monday which I will decline. Literally copy pasting from their meeting invite - "Request to panel-Please Take Resource Snapshot along with Any ID Proof and share the Feedback along with IRF post completion of interview." It's…

What’s a resource snapshot? A weird way of saying ‘your impression of the applicant’?

Re: I have quit my job

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Post by [deleted] »

awill88 wrote: post #146
jxidjhdhdhdhfhf wrote: post #117

Earlier quoted context omitted.

So what if the author is privileged? Unless you're living in a mud hut and subsistence farming, you can count yourself among the privileged as well. I guess you don't get to write anything on the internet because you might offend someone, somewhere. I love hearing about how people make deliberate choices about their life and their work, even if they are starting with something more than the average person.

I love hearing it too, I'd like it to be well-received, even by those human beings living in "mud hut and subsistence farming" should they encounter their writing.

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Re: I have quit my job

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Post by s1artibartfast »

paskozdilar wrote: post #139
s1artibartfast wrote: post #121

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>My point is that I cannot afford not to work I think you are getting the skepticism from others because most of the time these limitations are artificial and self imposed. I certainly have felt that way when I was severely depressed and fed up with my job/life. I felt helpless and blamed my situation, when in reality I was simply refusing to take ownership of my choices. I could quit my job, I could leave my partner…

> I felt helpless and blamed my situation, when in reality I was simply refusing to take ownership of my choices. I could quit my job, I could leave my partner, I could abandon my kids and family. I could go sleep in a park, I could buy a van and travel the country. The fact that you have a hypothetical possibility to do whatever does not mean anything in the real world. Besides, I am not depressed and I do not want…

OK. I don't have much sympathy if your only point is that you want to have things but not work or pay for them.

Re: I have quit my job

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Post by Aeolun »

vmception wrote: post #129

> On my therapist’s suggestion Where do you all find therapists? I see that its super trendy to have one now and admit it but at the byproduct of them being pretty booked! what do?

Same way everyone else finds therapists. I get referred by my GP, and then join the waiting list so I can have a first appointment in maybe 7 months.

Better hope it’s a good one. Yay social healthcare. At least it’s free.

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