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How come there’s not an app that’s successful at helping people making friends?

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Re: How come there’s not an app that’s successful at helping people making friends?

#3
none is successful

What evidence you have for that claim?

I've met several friends through Meetup. I'm sure there are other apps that help as well.

Perhaps you are not using apps correctly for your location and context, or are not served by them well there.

Re: How come there’s not an app that’s successful at helping people making friends?

#6
IME the people who want to find connections on an app tend to have anxiety around actually meeting/doing things with new people, and apps are unable to drive the level of commitment required to overcome that anxiety. Without an existing social network, connections tend to fizzle out before a relationship (platonic or otherwise) has a chance to be established.

Re: How come there’s not an app that’s successful at helping people making friends?

#7
Because friendships are made on apps they are made over shared experiences. You'd have to bring them together over an activity not just matching people if anything the old groupon would have been a good pivot into a friendship app. Matching people who paid for a rock climbing class subscription together for instance.

Re: How come there’s not an app that’s successful at helping people making friends?

#8
Aside from personality extraversion

Relationships can easily be initiated with a mutual interest in meeting someone to sleep with. Both parties accept there is an undiscussed mutual goal and a powerful motivational factor of getting laid, and if it doesnt work, then no worries. Additionally, people are FAR more relaxed on mutual comparability in this area. Liking coffee can be enough of a jump start, particularly if you are younger.

Friendships have far more prequesites and far less motivation. They also seem to flourish sometimes in direct opposition to external interests and personality. I dont really want many IT guys as my friend, so mutual interests isn't going to hack it. (No pun intended)

Re: How come there’s not an app that’s successful at helping people making friends?

#10
There is - social media, and before that, forums and mailing lists.

I've made friends through shared experiences and often these were based around online communities. For many years I raced mountain bikes, putting a face to a forum username up and down the country every weekend.

I've experienced wild nights partying with strangers from Reddit; hosted people around the world via Couchsurfing (and still remain in frequent contact with many); even made friends through mentoring at a coding group.

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