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Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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jordanpg wrote: post #201
Ovah wrote: post #172

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Sorry for the confusion. The x36 I copied from a lecture given by a senior obstetrician. The link was to provide background info on SIDS.

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Please don't post like this to HN. It poisons the ecosystem and destroys what HN is supposed to be for. Someone posting an incorrect number through what was most likely a typo or transcription error does not deserve to have a ton of internet bricks dropped on them, which is basically what you did here. You can provide correct information without treating others that way.

If you'd please review https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and stick to the rules when posting here, we'd appreciate it.

Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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Post by dang »

jordanpg wrote: post #32
asdfasgasdgasdg wrote: post #4

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Negative. There is very little good scientific evidence that it is important to breastfeed. But even if we stipulate that mothers must breastfeed, many working women pump milk during the day if they don't have unlimited paid time off after birth. In such cases bottles must obviously be used. And many women cannot produce enough breastmilk, and must supplement with formula. And many other possible reasons why bottles…

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Please don't take HN threads further into flamewar. Nothing good comes of it.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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daleharvey wrote: post #219
rp3 wrote: post #206

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They literally linked to a study, said "this is the best study", then said "this study didn't show benefits in [any] these areas", without mentioning the benefits the study did show. Belarus is/was not a country at risk of contaminated water, even after the collapse of the USSR.

You are replying to a thread that already contains 2 direct quotes from the author specifically discussing the benefits that the study did support.

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Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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Post by smusamashah »

Do the infants (less than a year) sleep automatically as in, you put them down on bed when they are tired and they go to sleep by themselves? Or do you have to make them sleep with lullabies, holding in arms, rocking them, humming, white noise, on your belly, etc etc until they finally fall asleep?

My 7mo son slept all by himself only twice in his lifetime. I wonder if everyone has to make their babies sleep like we do or they sleep by themselves.

Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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Post by Auracle »

smusamashah wrote: post #234

Do the infants (less than a year) sleep automatically as in, you put them down on bed when they are tired and they go to sleep by themselves? Or do you have to make them sleep with lullabies, holding in arms, rocking them, humming, white noise, on your belly, etc etc until they finally fall asleep? My 7mo son slept all by himself only twice in his lifetime. I wonder if everyone has to make their babies sleep like we…

When my wife went back to work and I took over taking care of our 2 month old, I decided to do the whole “cry to sleep” thing. I put her down when she was close to sleep but not there yet, and basically let her cry. If in ~10 minutes she wasn’t asleep I’d go pick her up and try again.

Full on crying fits were rare. She usually squawked and did some light cries. Within 2 or 3 days not only was putting her to sleep way easier but she started sleeping a full 11 or 12 hours through the night.

We still use a white noise machine, dark room, and a sleep sack (sometimes a weighted one). I think I’m going to start cracking the shades to her window during naps so she is better at napping in homes without a dark room.

All that said, there’s a reason I had to do that and not my wife. I could tell she was itching to go in at her distress, to the point where I would take the video monitor away from her. From what I read we also had better luck with it than most in that usually it takes a good week or so for it to work.

TLDR: Stop being such a millennial and let the baby cry ;)

Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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Post by silisili »

sergers wrote: post #218
hvaoc wrote: post #210

Newly minted dad of twins and uncle for 5 others. Infant phase The work is intense when they are young since they can’t do much on their own and need help very often. But this doesn’t last for too long. Most parents exaggerate this phase since it is very intense from their otherwise happy days without kids. I had enough nephews and nieces around that I helped with so my kids are not the first time I am doing somethin…

We were definately a dog family, when we had our first born kid, untill she was 2 years old there were so many things we related to same as a puppy

A lot of people will roll their eyes and yell it's not the same, but you're right - depending on how much you care about puppies dying, I guess.

Caring for a < 2 month old puppy with parvo is a literal nightmare. Force feed it Pedialyte every single hour, watch it puke and crap its guts out, and pray it doesn't die. Basically 5 days without touching REM.

Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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Post by smusamashah »

Auracle wrote: post #235
smusamashah wrote: post #234

Do the infants (less than a year) sleep automatically as in, you put them down on bed when they are tired and they go to sleep by themselves? Or do you have to make them sleep with lullabies, holding in arms, rocking them, humming, white noise, on your belly, etc etc until they finally fall asleep? My 7mo son slept all by himself only twice in his lifetime. I wonder if everyone has to make their babies sleep like we…

When my wife went back to work and I took over taking care of our 2 month old, I decided to do the whole “cry to sleep” thing. I put her down when she was close to sleep but not there yet, and basically let her cry. If in ~10 minutes she wasn’t asleep I’d go pick her up and try again. Full on crying fits were rare. She usually squawked and did some light cries. Within 2 or 3 days not only was putting her to sleep way…

Thanks for the tip. I have a hard time letting him cry. That's why I became very good at making him asleep. Wife gives up early and passes him to me. I use white noise as final resort which almost always works.

Right now, after your comment, I didn't struggle too much and after a little tapping went for white noise and he is now asleep. I will lower the volume and turn it off in a while. It should slowly develop into new habit.

Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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Post by hisnameisjimmy »

MrsPeaches wrote: post #141
basisword wrote: post #111

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Your opinion may shift naturally. I’ve started noticing as I get older that, despite my career, social life, finances etc being better than some close friends with kids - they are much happier. Even the people who’ve struggled financially because of it. The joy of a child, the constant challenge of raising it, and the constant change as it grows, seem to provide much more happiness than I can get from doing the “new…

> The joy of a child This is such a cliche that it almost meaningless but the JOY of a child is just insane. To have some around who is almost always happy to see you (and super pissed when you go away), initially at least, is just wonderful to be around. To me at least parenting is one of the most complete human experiences. It's joyous and terrifying, exciting and mundane, just all of the things at once. It's not f…

This is such a great articulation. It is completely insane how good it is. It blows my mind every day.

My life prior to our child seems incredibly stupid by comparison.

Re: Why babies cry in the first three months, how to tell them apart, and what to do

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Post by layer8 »

basisword wrote: post #111
gameshot911 wrote: post #103

Of kids I've always thought "maybe one day". I can see how it'd be a tough, but extremely rewarding and meaningful endeavor. But reading this article made me think for the first time "actually, I think I don't want kids." So many "mental CPU cycles" spent learning about pregnancy, babies, why they cry, how to care for them. It just doesn't appeal to me at all - I think it'd resent it taking me away from spending time…

Your opinion may shift naturally. I’ve started noticing as I get older that, despite my career, social life, finances etc being better than some close friends with kids - they are much happier. Even the people who’ve struggled financially because of it. The joy of a child, the constant challenge of raising it, and the constant change as it grows, seem to provide much more happiness than I can get from doing the “new…

It seems to be a complex topic: https://www.pnas.org/content/111/4/1328.abstract
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