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Checking for temperature is pretty easy. If their neck is a bit sweaty, they're too warm, remove a layer.
If their feet or hands feel colder than usual, too cold, add a layer (maybe warm on them on your own body first, if practical).
(This assumes a healthy baby).
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Even a single breast feeding session provides some benefits. According to my med school notes a single meal reduces the risk of SIDS by x36 compared to no breast feeding. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/sudden-infant...
Where on this page is there support for your "reduce risk of SIDS by x36" claim? Or that a single session is enough?
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Yeah, I always find it funny when someone who has themselves only been a parent for 3 months feels they can now dispense sage advice. Sorta like someone going through bootcamp giving advice about programming.
The best time to give advice about the first 3 months is when your kids are 3 months old. After that, the kids change and parenting changes too and you're likely to forget what worked at age 3 months. Someone with 10 year old kids has probably forgotten a lot of what they figured out when the kids were babies.
This may sound controversial, initially: Consider getting a good pair of sound isolating earphones, or even ear defenders! Not to neglect your child; but to reduce stress levels so you can problem solve effectively. The cry of your baby is one of the most emotionally powerful sounds there is. You'll experience extreme stress if you can't calm them down quickly. Probably for good evolutionary reasons, so the parent do…
When I read articles like this, I feel an intense anger and disgust for the children. I rationally know it’s not their fault; they’re helpless and didn’t choose this. When I have had to care for a child in distress, I don’t have the feeling. It’s only when I read about it or hear a neighbor’s child wailing. Maybe it reflects some neglect I experienced. Regardless, it is one of the many reasons I don’t have kids.
But anyway, thanks to those of you who can manage it. Somebody needs to raise the people who will be changing my diapers soon enough.
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Yeah, I always find it funny when someone who has themselves only been a parent for 3 months feels they can now dispense sage advice. Sorta like someone going through bootcamp giving advice about programming.
We thought we were terrible no good parents with our first child, who is a little bit more on the sensitive and emotional side, with quite a bit of anxiety also. None of the advice from anyone worked, friends, family, parents, siblings, internet. Still not the easiest child at 5, but easier. Second child arrived, mentally prepared for the same challenges… and what a textbook kid, three years on. Super chill, knocked…
Our first was difficult as well and advice never really applied. As a baby heavy metal actually worked well, which horrified my mother - but it’s all about finding something that works to calm them. Great closing sentiment, so I’ll paraphrase: it will be hard to love your child sometimes. Love them always, keep them safe, treat them well, and show them the beauty in the world. What seems hard will get easier.
Of kids I've always thought "maybe one day". I can see how it'd be a tough, but extremely rewarding and meaningful endeavor. But reading this article made me think for the first time "actually, I think I don't want kids." So many "mental CPU cycles" spent learning about pregnancy, babies, why they cry, how to care for them. It just doesn't appeal to me at all - I think it'd resent it taking me away from spending time…
As I sit here watching my 2 year old try and figure out what the hell a helium balloon is and why does it float when everything else falls, it is quite fun and enjoyable. They surprise you and they give a lot of affection and love back. It is true that you will miss out on "me time" for several years, but that changes eventually. It is not hard work, just relentless at times. For me, I don't think I would ever have b…
Of kids I've always thought "maybe one day". I can see how it'd be a tough, but extremely rewarding and meaningful endeavor. But reading this article made me think for the first time "actually, I think I don't want kids." So many "mental CPU cycles" spent learning about pregnancy, babies, why they cry, how to care for them. It just doesn't appeal to me at all - I think it'd resent it taking me away from spending time…
> I think it'd resent it taking me away from spending time on the topics that legitimately interest me oh, this one is kinda easy to prepare for: just forget about having time for this at all in the first couple of months. First 3 months you're not doing anything but caring for the baby, deal with that. Well, ok, you may have time to watch youtube or other videos while feeding or so. Around 1 year old, the kid can be…
After a month or so he started mostly sleeping at night with 2 or 3 feedings needed. Then during the day he started napping for 1-2 hour stretches.
The only statement I’ve found true is: Whatever is hard now will go away - but it will be replaced with something harder. Parenting is a grind. Love your kids especially when it’s hard, learn your emotional responses and hang ups, let go of perfect.
This may sound controversial, initially: Consider getting a good pair of sound isolating earphones, or even ear defenders! Not to neglect your child; but to reduce stress levels so you can problem solve effectively. The cry of your baby is one of the most emotionally powerful sounds there is. You'll experience extreme stress if you can't calm them down quickly. Probably for good evolutionary reasons, so the parent do…
Now I have 2 pairs of sound dampening earmuffs like you’d wear to a gun range for diaper changes. 1 pair upstairs and 1 downstairs. I highly recommend it.