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Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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The article almost exclusively talks about the US. One reason that isn't mentioned in the article is because the US is fundamentally based on puritanism and a lot of its values, especially concerning passion and sexuality are still prevalent in its culture. The "All American" OJ and corn flakes breakfast and circumcision (used as a form of genital mutilation to prevent masturbation) by Kellogs is still practiced to t…

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Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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To enjoy sex, or to even have a sex drive, you have to be fit. Maybe it is obesity.

To put a slight different additional spin on that: To enjoy sex, or to even have a sex drive, you have to be not taking anti-depression medication. Maybe it's the rise in depressed people[1]? ---- [1] I am one of that number, and take meds, and suffer as stated.

Disclaimer: Anecdote (does not mean data)

I was one of those who took an SSRI and had a change in my sex drive. I took escitalopram and it killed my sex drive, doc switched me to trazodone and things returned to normal.

If your SSRI is causing you problems, talk to your doctor, they can switch it up. Everyone responds differently, you should be able to find one that won't mess with it.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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> We make it work and have sex a few times every month That’s not very much at all. Some of us are daily+ kind of people (and yes we have hard jobs that make a lot of money, too). Hope your wife is satisfied with this arrangement.

Having Sex more than once a week 15 years into a relationship with 3 kids running around is not alot? I bed to differ. I think for most that would be more than they are currently do.

Having sex daily is a young couple fantasy, and really at this point just waiting time.

Time is the one thing we dont have. If Im not feelin it, and the wife isn't feeling it. I'm not going to force it. And If I want it, and she dont. Rubbing one off out in my office quick after the kids are in bed is no big deal.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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The article almost exclusively talks about the US. One reason that isn't mentioned in the article is because the US is fundamentally based on puritanism and a lot of its values, especially concerning passion and sexuality are still prevalent in its culture. The "All American" OJ and corn flakes breakfast and circumcision (used as a form of genital mutilation to prevent masturbation) by Kellogs is still practiced to t…

History suggests this isn't something HN likes to discuss, but could it also correlate with the rise of queer identities and general decline of straight sexual relationships? Half of my peers (myself included) came out as gay or queer after high school. That doesn't necessarily insinuate that they didn't engage in straight sex at the time, but the overall interest in it is certainly diffusing. I personally couldn't s…

It s well documented that young men are having less sex. I would like to see a comparative study between gay and str8 men however

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-usa-health-sex-idUSKBN23J...

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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I'd like to point out that cops in my city are not low wage jobs. They earn ~200k and more if they do overtime.

Cops can earn a good amount, and can move up. But lets be honest this is not a game every cop has the option to do. only so many upper management positions. same with a teacher.

All I meant by it is making six figures by the time you turn 30 is not as easy as a task.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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A large component is hormonal birth control. We chemically castrate young girls before the point of sexual maturity. It crushes their libido for the duration of use and may inhibit full development. My wife on hormonal birth control is the not the same person as she is off. Its sad the article didn't address this topic at all. When you get finasteride for hair loss the first thing they tell you about is sexual side e…

We don't talk about it because "the pill" was one of the sacred cows of the Womens' Liberation movement, and any negative commentary, however rooted in fact, is taken as an attack on the idea of social freedom for women. It's unfortunate, because as you said it has significant effects on those who take it.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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A large component is hormonal birth control. We chemically castrate young girls before the point of sexual maturity. It crushes their libido for the duration of use and may inhibit full development. My wife on hormonal birth control is the not the same person as she is off. Its sad the article didn't address this topic at all. When you get finasteride for hair loss the first thing they tell you about is sexual side e…

The pill can cause a lot of problems. In all of my relationships I’ve successfully encouraged my parter to stop taking the pill and we use condoms exclusively. I’m not circumcised which helps. I think male circumcision discourages condom use. Another thing that isn’t talked about enough.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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post #14

It's burying the lede to suggest that young people are having less sex. The salient fact is that it's young men who are skewing this average down. Women, on average, are doing perfectly fine in the sexual marketplace, along with the top 10-15% of men. edit: The above was my reflexive response to the headline. Now that I've actually read the article, I have to say that the article is very good and quite comprehensive,…

This looks like the start of an incel complaint. You really think that 1/8 of men are sexing up 8x women, and "taking your opportunity" or something? In reality women are looking for partners too. No one owes anyone anything, just be a decent person, try to get over your expectations of the world owing you something.

See this WaPo article and specifically the chart titled "Young men driving the decline in sex": https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-ame...

It dances around the point but the GP's logic seems plausible, if exaggerated. If the increase in sexlessness among young men is ~twice that of the increase of sexlessness in young women over the same timeframe, it is quite plausible that the same men are having sex with more women.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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post #16

The article almost exclusively talks about the US. One reason that isn't mentioned in the article is because the US is fundamentally based on puritanism and a lot of its values, especially concerning passion and sexuality are still prevalent in its culture. The "All American" OJ and corn flakes breakfast and circumcision (used as a form of genital mutilation to prevent masturbation) by Kellogs is still practiced to t…

History suggests this isn't something HN likes to discuss, but could it also correlate with the rise of queer identities and general decline of straight sexual relationships? Half of my peers (myself included) came out as gay or queer after high school. That doesn't necessarily insinuate that they didn't engage in straight sex at the time, but the overall interest in it is certainly diffusing. I personally couldn't s…

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