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Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by pibechorro »

refurb wrote: post #42
baxuz wrote: post #16

The article almost exclusively talks about the US. One reason that isn't mentioned in the article is because the US is fundamentally based on puritanism and a lot of its values, especially concerning passion and sexuality are still prevalent in its culture. The "All American" OJ and corn flakes breakfast and circumcision (used as a form of genital mutilation to prevent masturbation) by Kellogs is still practiced to t…

This is the most “i read it on the internet” explanation I’ve ever seen. After the sexual revolution of that happened 60 years ago and the acceptance of casual sex even on television 40 years ago , OP is going with the “the puritans of the 1600’s are to blame”. I LOL’ed. I highly recommend the OP Google his closest dive bar and drink until closing time then go and change those stats personally.

Well the data goes against your opinion. Kids aren't hanging out in bars and sleeping around like the good ol days. They are online much more.

Also, the US is still super puritan, it is conservative outwardly and it makes up for it by being deviant privately, travel, most countries are much more open about sex. Be it public display of affection, legal sex work, sex education, down to just physical contact from kisses in greetings, and public nudity at the beach, etc.

Americans are, in general, prudes in public and slutty in private. While much of the world is the opposite.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by smoldesu »

baxuz wrote: post #16

The article almost exclusively talks about the US. One reason that isn't mentioned in the article is because the US is fundamentally based on puritanism and a lot of its values, especially concerning passion and sexuality are still prevalent in its culture. The "All American" OJ and corn flakes breakfast and circumcision (used as a form of genital mutilation to prevent masturbation) by Kellogs is still practiced to t…

History suggests this isn't something HN likes to discuss, but could it also correlate with the rise of queer identities and general decline of straight sexual relationships? Half of my peers (myself included) came out as gay or queer after high school. That doesn't necessarily insinuate that they didn't engage in straight sex at the time, but the overall interest in it is certainly diffusing. I personally couldn't see myself in a fulfilling, long-term relationship with the opposite sex. Combined with the culture shock of being raised on Pam Stenzel videos, I don't really see this as surprising at all.

But I also don't really see it as an issue? Overpopulation has been a looming concern for the past few generations of human existence. Letting go of our "go forth and multiply" mindset has been a few decades in the making now, and loosening our regulation/criticism of the LGBTQ community coincides with that pretty nicely. Love is a matter of reciprocal fulfillment, and much to the chagrin of the self-proclaimed gigachads browsing Orange Site and /g/, that doesn't inherently necessitate procreation or family-building.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by claaams »

halo37253 wrote: post #31
noduerme wrote: post #4

Lack of eye contact. That's what I see among both sexes under the age of 30. Almost to the level of autism. An inability to have basic conversation. And the boys are totally ineffectual and terrified of trying to kiss a girl; it's been made faux pas to show any inclination. It's hard enough as a teenager to get up the courage to kiss a girl. Imagine if you think there's a 50/50 chance she'll completely destroy your l…

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I'd like to point out that cops in my city are not low wage jobs. They earn ~200k and more if they do overtime.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by woolion »

blodkorv wrote: post #21
caeril wrote: post #14

It's burying the lede to suggest that young people are having less sex. The salient fact is that it's young men who are skewing this average down. Women, on average, are doing perfectly fine in the sexual marketplace, along with the top 10-15% of men. edit: The above was my reflexive response to the headline. Now that I've actually read the article, I have to say that the article is very good and quite comprehensive,…

This, women have an abundance of top tire men to choose from.

Of course, since top tyre mens provide the best adherence, a paramount concern in wet conditions.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by PaulHoule »

cjbgkagh wrote: post #49
caeril wrote: post #14

It's burying the lede to suggest that young people are having less sex. The salient fact is that it's young men who are skewing this average down. Women, on average, are doing perfectly fine in the sexual marketplace, along with the top 10-15% of men. edit: The above was my reflexive response to the headline. Now that I've actually read the article, I have to say that the article is very good and quite comprehensive,…

I recently saw a chart that showed that women recently overtook men in the no sex in the last 12 months.

Where?

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by ahallock »

baxuz wrote: post #16

The article almost exclusively talks about the US. One reason that isn't mentioned in the article is because the US is fundamentally based on puritanism and a lot of its values, especially concerning passion and sexuality are still prevalent in its culture. The "All American" OJ and corn flakes breakfast and circumcision (used as a form of genital mutilation to prevent masturbation) by Kellogs is still practiced to t…

I mean, this has always been the case, though, so not sure what this long, rambling comment has to do with the decline happening today. I also think you're being hyperbolic. No one, except fringe groups, treats sex that way here.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by rthomas6 »

caeril wrote: post #14

It's burying the lede to suggest that young people are having less sex. The salient fact is that it's young men who are skewing this average down. Women, on average, are doing perfectly fine in the sexual marketplace, along with the top 10-15% of men. edit: The above was my reflexive response to the headline. Now that I've actually read the article, I have to say that the article is very good and quite comprehensive,…

Do you have a source for this claim? Specifically that women aren't having less sex too, and that the decline is almost entirely due to men. It's very possible for women to be more selective than in the past, and also everyone being less promiscuous overall.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by nestorD »

Are they? and how do you define young people? The two statistics I found in the introduction of the article are:

> percentage of high-school students who’d had intercourse dropped from 54 to 40 percent > U.S. teen pregnancy rate has plummeted to a third of its modern high

Basically highschoolers are getting less pregnant (good) and having less sex, this might not extent to people between 20 and 30 years old.

Here is another article with more detailled data, they conclude that it is likely caused by US teens being less risk averse (correlation with less drinking, less smoking and less driving: teens are just being more responsible than their parents) : https://ifstudies.org/blog/fewer-american-high-schoolers-hav...

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by NotSammyHagar »

caeril wrote: post #14

It's burying the lede to suggest that young people are having less sex. The salient fact is that it's young men who are skewing this average down. Women, on average, are doing perfectly fine in the sexual marketplace, along with the top 10-15% of men. edit: The above was my reflexive response to the headline. Now that I've actually read the article, I have to say that the article is very good and quite comprehensive,…

This looks like the start of an incel complaint. You really think that 1/8 of men are sexing up 8x women, and "taking your opportunity" or something? In reality women are looking for partners too. No one owes anyone anything, just be a decent person, try to get over your expectations of the world owing you something.
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