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A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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They don't mention NSAIDs in the abstract, I will see if I can pull the full article. I would hope to see better evidence if this is genuinely established. That doesn't mean it's wrong, but "established finding" is a high bar.

Is it because Tylenol isn't an NSAID?

Did you see Tylenol mentioned either?

Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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Interesting way to approach it, my approach might be less technical, when someone comes to mind randomly, I just txt them with: Hey, you just popped into my mind, I hope all is well with you and yours! It's simple, lightweight, and you'd be shocked how often the other person pings back. My completely un-scientific view is that most people think of others once in a while. Perhaps we're too busy to reach out, or the gu…

What's the channel you use to get the message across I wonder? Email? LinkedIn?

Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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Someone made a tool for this purpose: https://github.com/monicahq/monica "You may call it cheating but considering my poor memory, I call it caring."

I tried Monica for the reason in the quote - I don't try to be a bad friend, but I'm forgetful, and I was hoping it would make my life a little easier by being a digital memory in the absence of a good meat-based one. I found the learning curve and the way they viewed capturing data to be just a little too opposed to how I wanted to use it, unfortunately. Particularly, I was invested in the idea of moving all of my c…

This is the reason I started Dex (YC S19) -- tried Monica and while it solved the right problem I found it a heavy -- it felt like to much work. To be a single source of truth I wanted to import from Facebook / LinkedIn etc, and I didn't find it possible with Monica. (plug: Dex does)

Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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Every couple of days I scroll through my text history to the bottom and see if there's anyone there I'd like to talk to. I call it "The Poor Man's CRM"

it's funny you say that. i've had thoughts about getting more organized like this, but then have come to realize "wait a minute, this means i'm industrializing my personal life with actual crm techniques. how do i feel about this? ick!" but... maybe that's what you have to do when you get older, busier and more forgetful and maybe it's not icky at all, as you still maintain who goes on the lists.

The other way to look at it is you value your relationships enough that you want to invest more into growing them.

Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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I'm going to set aside an hour every couple of weeks and do it manually. Any automation beyond that would feel a little fake or forced to me, personally.

I don't think that's a good idea. If you set aside some time every few weeks to do that it won't fell good. You will be contacting many people in the little span of time and won't be able to have a conversation with all of them. On the other side, if you have your contact reminders distributed so you have just a couple of them per day, that way you can really care about each and every time you contact a person.

Well, what I had in mind was just to set aside some time to think about friends and contacts and get in touch with people I haven't spoken to in a while, then follow up organically from there.

In fact I just called up two people today to see what was going on in their lives.

You do your thing, and I'll do mine. :)

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I like this. I'd like it a ton if I had a single feed that would aggregate my texts, whatsapp, my various email addresses, telegram, signal, skype, zoom, facebook messenger ...

Beeper is essentially that. I’ve been using it for a few months and it’s surprisingly usable already.

Nice! That covers a lot of services.

Is it only for text? Will the fact that I video-chatted someone appear in Beeper, even if I have to use a different app to video-chat? It doesn't include email, right?

Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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I agree, but I also think it's also an issue (particularly with the popularity of social media) that people are often trying to keep in contact with many more people but also interacting a lot more than in the past. For instance, I know people who were part of the greatest generation that would have decades long pen-pal type relationships with people they hadn't seen in person in years. It was pretty common for them…

Are you saying even e-mail completely died down in your life? I still get a lot of value from e-mail exchanges with old friends -- I agree it's not super common though.

Long form casual social e-mail have just about disappeared for me. The kind where someone writes you several paragraphs about their life or their thoughts for no particular purpose than to chat with you. I used to have a lot of people I kept up correspondence with for several years, but when social media became popular, those mostly stopped. Which is a shame, because social media is much worse for forming actual relationships, in my experience.

Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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With my brother, we recently created a small app dedicated to this task: https://app.kipinto.ch It's available on the web, on Android and on iOS, under the name Kipinto This app is not specifically targeted to follow your friends, which happens quite naturally, but more to keep in touch with those persons that you consider important but with whom you have no "natural" occasion to interact: an old colleague or client…

I'd like to test it. Can you make it available to download in the UK? Currently seems to be unavailable. Thanks!

:O

My bad, I completely forgot that the beta has been opened only to French speaking countries, but I can correct that.

In the meantime, you can test it with the webapp if you want: if you are satisfied, your account will be synced across all your devices so you will not lose anything.

(Obviously, if you test with an anonymous account, you will have to "upgrade" it to an "identified" account to be able to connect to it on another device)

Feel free to share feedback!

Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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I love the tips on what to write. I make a Personal CRM called Queue (https://queue.community) and the biggest reason people stop using it is that they just don't know what to say when it's time to reach out. The truth is people on the receiving end of catch up requests are almost always happy to chat, and it's often enough just to say hi.

Re: A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

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There’s a huge difference between once a year and zero. Think of the strong traditions behind birthday or annual holiday greetings, for instance. Look at it this way. Let’s say you reach out to 100 people once a year. Well there are 7.7 billion people on Earth. You’re putting those 100 people into your 99.999999 percentile for that year!

> Think of the strong traditions behind birthday or annual holiday greetings, for instance. And I don’t know of any meaningful relationship that is maintained just by that bare minimum.

I have some meaningful relationships that are. So, now you do!
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