Have this same issue but it's for people I know are leeches. No idea how to deal with it properly.
Ask HN: I'm hesitant to helping colleagues, why?
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Re: Ask HN: I'm hesitant to helping colleagues, why?
#42No offense, but I sense from your writing that English may not be your first language. I am American but have done business all over the world. In the USA a more collaborative business/work environment is the norm vs Eastern countries where win/win is not really a concept and business/work tends to be much lower trust and more adversarial. I have no way of knowing but perhaps there are some cultural tendencies at pla…
I disagree. I find a lot of the people I work with insufferable leeches of my time. I work with one guy who asks me a question, I'll spend an hour with him as he writes it all down, and he will ask me the same question a month later and repeat the same cycle of writing it down. I have the expectation of my colleagues that they would put in some base level of effort for their pay. Many do, some do not, and these people are the ones I do not enjoy helping.
Re: Ask HN: I'm hesitant to helping colleagues, why?
#43It took me a decade of work to realize that in corporate America you are almost always paid for being nice and helpful to your colleagues, rather than your individual contributions, no matter what level you are hired at. And this becomes more and more true as a company scales in number of employees (currently at a FAANG and couldn't be more true). For me personally it was a major shift that occurred over a couple yea…
Do you get embarrassing flashbacks of previous behavior or any pangs of worry that you'll regress?
Have you ever tried nudge those "old versions of you" towards your current direction?