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If you have $500, I would suggest to take 6 months sabbatical and just unplug from tech.
LOL. Getting old is 35. ONLY $500K in savings at 35. Such a sad story. So sorry for you, as most people are lucky to have saved $50K at 35 or even 55! Money has no meaning if you are feeling lost with $500K. Seriously though, my advice would be stop comparing yourself to others. Older or younger, married or single, successful or not, fit or fat. Know thyself. Go on a meditation retreat. You have nothing to lose and n…
My friend, you are not lost -- you are free. From what I can tell, you have your health, your youth (35 is still young) and you have some savings. If you don't have a mortgage, kids, a spouse, and a job you cannot leave, then you are free. The next step is to see the world. Get a one-way ticket to Chiang Mai and try to stay as long as possible. Learn the language, get a scooter, and talk to people. Live close to the…
Chiang Mai and the rest of Thailand are rather shit at the moment with insane entry requirements. Even if you persevere (and don't get jailed in quarantine hotel) understand that there are no tourists, no expats, no nightlife at the moment and many many failed businesses and ghost town vibes. "Just learn Thai lol" is not actionable advice either. I say this as someone who has literally done what you suggest in 50+ co…
Heading there next month ;)
paddleboarding, biking, fixing up a rental property, sewing, electronics, bought an internet business to run as a side hustle, minecraft (family realm), weightlifting/fitness + fixing my sleep (down 30 lbs in 15 mo), sauna (not really a hobby, but ~30 min/day), crypto, knitting, breadmaking, pottery, ukulele, piano, rock climbing, disc golf, pickleball
Find activities that make you happy and double down on those. Pay for classes/coaches. Travel has been pretty much nonexistent the last few years (thanks covid), so we've had to spend a lot of time/money on figuring out how we can stay put and not kill each other.
On the job side, remote work means way more opportunities to find interesting work. Or buy something neat on MicroAcquire and learn how to grow it if you feel like you don't have what it takes to start something. (I don't say that negatively -- I started a lot of things that never went anywhere, but I find that I enjoy the operations/optimization side a lot more and have enjoyed tinkering on a business I bought in 2018).
(edit: forgot lists don't work)
I am in a similar headspace but at 31, but the truth is that life is just beginning in the 30s. You have experience AND money, which can open so many doors.
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It sounds like you haven't had the experience of being fired without notice, with one month of rent in savings. Companies literally don't care whether you die. Why would you pour your heart and soul into something so soulless? When I felt as you did, it ended up causing interpersonal conflicts when my vision of "good" didn't match my coworkers'. If you pour your heart and soul into something, and then everyone disagr…
Companies normally don't fire a crackerjack but that happened to me back in the 2000's during one of the more vulnerable parts of my life. The vice president who recruited me took a higher paying gig at a competitor. Then my manager went on a weeklong vacation. I showed up to work one day and found that my computer couldn't access the network. I asked the IT guy what happened and with a bead of sweat rolling down his…
Consider an alternate universe where you were never allowed to feel like an all-star, because you were never able to show up for meetings on time, and people got progressively madder at you regardless of how much soul or effort you put in.
We’re probably two sides of the same coin. You got lucky at all your jobs, and I got unlucky. But it certainly made me think twice about thinking badly of people who get fired, regardless of official reasons.
(Your manager seemed to actually care about you on a personal level? That ~never happens.)
I’m in my late 40s. Just gone through 15 years of absolute shit with an ex partner and financial chaos. Decided I’d fix it in 2019. Three important things to concentrate on: 1. Health. If that’s off, fix it first. Everything depends on health. Sort out your diet, physical fitness and health and mental health follows. I’m fitter than all my peers and both fitter and healthier than I was in my 20s. Can run a half marat…
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What is your personality type? Are you extroverted? Would points (2) and (3) differ for someone who is introverted?
I went from introvert to extrovert over the space of a couple of years. Fear prevented me from making lots of critical connections in life. Turned out this was silly and putting myself in uncomfortable positions led to lots of great experiences which I look back on when I need motivation and to get over the hump that stopped me doing stuff before.
It has to do with whether hanging out with others drains or fill you with energy, mentally.
I love hanging out with people, it fills me with joy, and I'm great at talking with people, I'm good at cracking jokes that causes a group to laugh, I can hold speeches just fine, or perform in front of a group. But once I'm done, I'm exhausted, it's like holding my breath, I need to come up for air and be alone, even if I enjoy being with other people.