Only worry about the milestones when they are way off. Like waaaay off. Every kid develops at a different rate. They tried to get us all freaked out that our kid had a speech delay and that we needed speech therapy, and possibly other interventions. It was obvious that he understood what we were saying and could act on what we were saying so it seemed to us like his lights were on and that the language parts of his b…
Hi, Did you follow their advice ? or what you do so the child can catchup the speech delay, thank you.
Only worry about the milestones when they are way off. Like waaaay off. Every kid develops at a different rate. They tried to get us all freaked out that our kid had a speech delay and that we needed speech therapy, and possibly other interventions. It was obvious that he understood what we were saying and could act on what we were saying so it seemed to us like his lights were on and that the language parts of his b…
Tommy Caldwell, by some measures best rock climber ever, didn’t crawl until age of 2. That’s waaaay behind, and he worked out ok.
I know the feeling. Perhaps, if your little one is roughly on track, focus on giving it a meaningful life, not hitting milestones. Fun, new experiences, challenges etc. This is a regret-minimising approach to parenting (literally).
Only worry about the milestones when they are way off. Like waaaay off. Every kid develops at a different rate. They tried to get us all freaked out that our kid had a speech delay and that we needed speech therapy, and possibly other interventions. It was obvious that he understood what we were saying and could act on what we were saying so it seemed to us like his lights were on and that the language parts of his b…
Hi, Did you follow their advice ? or what you do so the child can catchup the speech delay, thank you.
Most kids grow up fine. Some will be late. My first child didn't start talking until she was about 3. she even stopped a babbling phase around 1. But after 3, she just never stops talking. She couldn't hold a pencil until around 5 or 6, way behind other kids, and now at 9, she draws better than anyone in the family. This is quite common. You have kids who talk and walk late, but they might be strong in other forms. I…
> My first child didn't start talking until she was about 3 Thank you for sharing this. How did you handle being around kids the same age who were talking? My kid is 2 and isn't talking and when his cousin who is 3 months younger started talking, his father asked me how many words my kid says. I locked up and didn't respond. It dawned on me afterwards that there are parents who just don't know about this stuff b/c th…
We had similar situations (we're 3.5 now), our kid wasn't talking as much as others at certain age categories, but he knew ABC very well in multiple languages, he could count to 100 easily and do basic addition at the very early age, while others were better at talking. Whenever someone was saying "by now he should be doing this and that", I would respond that it's not the race[sometimes more harsh than that, so that the discussion would be over immediately]. We do not follow the so called "recommended milestones", same as we do not follow guidelines of the age recommendation on the back of the toys.
Most kids grow up fine. Some will be late. My first child didn't start talking until she was about 3. she even stopped a babbling phase around 1. But after 3, she just never stops talking. She couldn't hold a pencil until around 5 or 6, way behind other kids, and now at 9, she draws better than anyone in the family. This is quite common. You have kids who talk and walk late, but they might be strong in other forms. I…
> My first child didn't start talking until she was about 3 Thank you for sharing this. How did you handle being around kids the same age who were talking? My kid is 2 and isn't talking and when his cousin who is 3 months younger started talking, his father asked me how many words my kid says. I locked up and didn't respond. It dawned on me afterwards that there are parents who just don't know about this stuff b/c th…
I lucked out on this part because my mother has a PhD in child psychology and she said it was not unusual. She checked the kids for autism and such, didn't find any of the other symptoms.
I recommend a book called "Selfish Reasons To Have More Kids" by Bryan Caplan. It's a short read, and very interesting. The basic argument is that we've turned modern parenting into a stressful chore, much as you describe. But by looking at separated twin studies, he argues that what we do as parents has much less impact on how our kids turn out than we would probably like to believe. Essentially, if your parenting i…
You could argue that Bryan wrote a very persuasive book on why effortful parenting is a waste of time, and then proceeded to engage in a parenting campaign which put him in the top 0.0001% of "parental effort exerted"! To what extent does that mean he doesn't really believe what he wrote?
I don't mean this to be a mean spirited question. I still think Bryan is an extremely persuasive , good faith author. Just wondering aloud how to explain this discrepancy.
What is the pressure from exactly? She either hits the milestones "on time" or she doesn't. There's not much you can do about it at the time. My wife and I watch our daughter change and try to map changes to milestones, but we're just marveling and along for the ride.
The pressure is from discerning whether we as parents are doing all we can and providing the right resources, environment, etc for her to reach milestones. For example, behind on nonverbal communications? Have we been gesturing enough, demonstrating enough? Are we doing wrong when we leave her in the pack and play for a bit while getting work done? It seems impossible to know.
I honestly think you've misunderstood. Your kid's brain is going to develop. The stuff you're talking about is just to get her some practice. Which is good! But she'll be able to pick up these skills at any later point once her brain is ready. Her brain isn't going to wait for you.
> My first child didn't start talking until she was about 3 Thank you for sharing this. How did you handle being around kids the same age who were talking? My kid is 2 and isn't talking and when his cousin who is 3 months younger started talking, his father asked me how many words my kid says. I locked up and didn't respond. It dawned on me afterwards that there are parents who just don't know about this stuff b/c th…
I lucked out on this part because my mother has a PhD in child psychology and she said it was not unusual. She checked the kids for autism and such, didn't find any of the other symptoms.
Thanks, lucky indeed. In the LA area, there's a 6-month wait list to see an in-network child psychologist that can give an autism diagnosis. Our appointment is in March 2022 and therapy classes are also wait listed. All we have been able to get are 30-minute speech therapy sessions once a week that haven't helped at all.