I know its only 12$ but I hope this guy aggressively tries to get it back. The only way we get support departments is if these fuckups become expensive.
Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
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Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#592Earlier quoted context omitted.
> By far the best part is they didn't automatically cancel his subscription. What a horrible company, if you've banned my account that's fine but cancel the subscription and refund my money. Could this have something to do with subscribing through the App Store? Maybe there is something in Apple's ToS, or some limitation in their billing API that prevents them from doing this.
Given that the App Store doesn't let developers give users refunds, it does sound likely to me that they can't cancel user subscriptions either.
Pretty much, they also can only get a refund via Apple customer support (unless Tinder would be willing to ACH them)
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Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#593Earlier quoted context omitted.
This is only really true in north america (especially if you're of Indian descent). Women have much more realistic expectations once you get out of that cesspit
Enjoy while it lasts because social media will spread their ambitions. In any case, woman desire for fit men is culturally universal so all should hit the gym and diet for its own good. Hard. Good luck making your game to the next level!
I'm currently in a relationship so It doesn't affect me anynore. as far as hitting the gym, I agree. its one of our favorite activities together.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#594From Tinder's ToS: > Tinder may terminate your account at any time without notice if it believes that you have violated this Agreement. Upon such termination, you will not be entitled to any refund for purchases. > For residents of the Republic of Korea, except in the case [...], we will without delay notify you of the reason for taking the relevant step. They openly say in advance that they'll ban users who they thi…
I'm not single and haven't been fora long time, but my understanding is that if you're single you can't really opt out of these apps, practically speaking. Even the norms around dating, picking people up in bars, etc. are changing because of these apps, so it's harder to find people in the real world. Not impossible, obviously, but getting banned from Tinder is kind of a big deal. (Also all these apps are owned by th…
> my understanding is that if you're single you can't really opt out of these apps
I understand why so many people believe this. But pro tip: if you want to opt out of dating apps, the key is to learn the skill of asking for what you want.
Ask the cute person at the coffee shop if you can have their number. Ask the person who's number you got out for a date. Ask the person you're on a date with if they want to kiss, etc. There is an art to successfully asking for things, and you have to get comfortable with people sometimes saying no, but the key really is that simple: just ask!
It's actually easier in real life to get a date with someone you find interesting, because you're not limited by who the algorithm decides to show your profile to, you're only limited by your willingness to ask.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#595Earlier quoted context omitted.
> once you know what goes on under the hood you won't ever feel like touching one of them with a ten foot pole. I love gaming the algorithm to meet hotter* people than I would meet using the apps the most intuitive way. *It's not subjective, there are profiles that attract way more attention and would either: never be shown to you, or you never shown to them.
How does one even game it unless you’re putting up fake photos? And at that point - what’s the point…? That person won’t date the actual you.
You still got to figure that part out.
There are many people that do decently with attraction in person who wouldn't do as well in a visual app. Attraction in person is weighed by energy, actions, social validation and also looks. This method is more useful for people that can do that, but don't match preconceived visual ideals that the potential mates have, but passable.
So replicating that in an app trying to emulate that with match scores means you have to at least reduce the chance of getting matched by others with a low match score. Leave your pending matches pending forever, dont get desparate to match arbitrarily. If attractive people still don't match (give it a month, per area), nuke the profile and try again with different pictures and content.
If you dont have any of that then you need a different strategy.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
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Not just patents: trademark too. There’s only one Facebook. Without that, you also don’t have Facebook’s network effect tying it all together.
I very much doubt that if someone could setup another service named Facebook, they could compete with them or do much beyond annoy customers and phish.
Let’s not get into hypotheticals. You know as well as I do that a large bit of Facebook’s early growth story was their brand and their reputation. That name may have been dragged through the mud in the past few years, but it still means something, and its not without value despite the recent rebranding on the parent company front.
Meta retains the exclusive right to do business using the Facebook mark and they’ll continue to enforce it. It’s the same story for any other company, and it’s a form of monopoly that the government grants, not something that would be enforceable otherwise.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#597Earlier quoted context omitted.
> By far the best part is they didn't automatically cancel his subscription. What a horrible company, if you've banned my account that's fine but cancel the subscription and refund my money. Could this have something to do with subscribing through the App Store? Maybe there is something in Apple's ToS, or some limitation in their billing API that prevents them from doing this.
Given that the App Store doesn't let developers give users refunds, it does sound likely to me that they can't cancel user subscriptions either.
Depends how big you are. Apple has been known to give special privileges to big players like Hulu[0].
[0] https://www.theverge.com/2021/5/6/22423410/apple-hulu-subscr...
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#598Earlier quoted context omitted.
Not sure where you're getting that from. I would like to assume positive intent and the best interpretation of your position, but it's really difficult to not read this as "If we have to get consent for touching someone, then we have to get consent for all interactions. Therefore touch-consent is non-viable." Please help me understand how you aren't saying that.
As someone who's been on the receiving end of unwanted touches, just keeping your hands to yourself and not asking at all would be perfectly fine.
I feel like on dates, light touching should be an expected possibility. Trying to hold a hand, put an arm around one another, etc.
If it isn't wanted, simply decline it.
The idea that no physical touching can be initiated in any manner before asking on a date is a bad thing.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#599Getting banned from Tinder is like getting banned from a bar. Just go somewhere else.
Getting banned from Tinder is getting banned from 1/3 of the bars in the city. Hope he doesn't slip up on Bumble and get banned from another 1/3.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#600FWIW I seldom got any likes on Tinder in USA. I would consider myself in the top 10% of my own country in height and looks but not the same in USA. I realized that US women do not consider me attractive at least based on limited data that a Tinder card shows.
Tweak your profile, try other apps, and accept that the funnel is going to be massive.
I did something different. Moved back to my country, had an 'arranged' marriage and am content now. Work remotely and happy with it too. Funnier issue is that a lot of women of my race in USA did not want to date a first generation immigrant.I do not want to generalize and do social commentary but I hope we hear more comments from many sides of the story. Matchmaking is always going to be Darwinian in the extreme sense but the sense of low confidence it created in me when in USA was quite high.