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I work for a great company, and we have a prime directive.
~"We believe that our coworkers have done the best they could, given the knowledge they had at the time and the situation."
So suggestion: Give your team more credit. Quit working where you work.
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Paying 15% of net income for weekly therapy sessions only to hear lameness like "you are perfect, everyone is", "there is nothing wrong with you", "you are very brave" and to discuss the news is not what I would consider responsible use for money. Like OP, there is something wrong with my daily life and I am the only person responsible of making it better. Phrases like "everything will be all right, anyway" and "you…
Not sure whether you've ever done therapy, but I have and I've had an excellent experience with it. I don't think many therapists do therapy by spouting some superficial platitudes at the client.
>Any practical tips that work on you are highly appreciated. a) Lifting heavy weights, either at home or gym. b) Reading c) Any hobby that you find fulfilling, if you have time. If you don't just enjoy every second you have with your baby.
Go for a 5-10 minute walk every time you have to pee. Watch some youtube videos to learn something. if doing something causes problems, don’t repeat it. Don’t fight reality, get better at predicting it.
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Not sure whether you've ever done therapy, but I have and I've had an excellent experience with it. I don't think many therapists do therapy by spouting some superficial platitudes at the client.
120 sessions. I did not develop enough agency to react to the fact we did not have a plan or a goal during the last 100.
- Cardio: Going out for a walk, running, walking the little one, preferably while sleeping so it adds no stress to the walking; You have to get the adrenalin out of your system and cardio is the most efficient way to do this
- medical check-up: especially the hormone stuff
- self-monitoring: Leave situations before you meltdown. Do not answer immediately when you see a meltdown coming or feel that you are already there, if nothing else works, just leave the room.
- Talk this through with your family, be transparent on your wish to "get better" again; show commitment. To me it is the biggest motivation that I want to be at least a mediocre parent, not the kind hated by their ex and children.
- Some kind of mentoring/personal trainer/psychology helps, because it adds that sweet third-person perspective. You are asking complete strangers for help already, so think about what kind of assistance you are willing to accept. A friend of mine is in a self-help group, I am quite content with psychoanalysis though it is baby steps and that does not go well with my impatience :-) Not sure if your rejection of psycho* is not already part of the problem, nobody I met in the mental health sector was arrogant, but your milage may vary.
- Think about your job and whether it is worth risking your family. Apply at some other company (but remember that there is no company where all is good) that you can identify with more or just for a change of scenery. Become a carpenter. Do not allow yourself to sulk in some 'I am the victim' mindset even if you are a victim, it will not get you anywhere. - read this: https://www.chicagotribune.com/columns/chi-schmich-sunscreen...
Disclaimer: I am still melting down several several times of the week, and there are times when I cannot imagine to go for another minute. But I do.
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Not sure whether you've ever done therapy, but I have and I've had an excellent experience with it. I don't think many therapists do therapy by spouting some superficial platitudes at the client.
120 sessions. I did not develop enough agency to react to the fact we did not have a plan or a goal during the last 100.