This is normal. You will get used to it, and you will likely bounce to your personality before the windfall. You have solved one problem in life that most people never solve, and that puts you in a very small group. However, the rest of the problems are still there. The need to work for money can no longer distract you from them. You still need human connection and purpose. You still will age, have to worry about you…
Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
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Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#152The money is making you depressed, so get rid of it. It's found money--it's not like you earned it through hard work or skill. It won't be painful to part with it. You got super lucky, but you can't use the same trick again to make more money.
Depending on how you give it away, you could make a lot of great connections and relationships that would serve you well through your career. If you want help figuring out how to do that, let me know.
Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#153The internal motivation issue is hard: doing anything worthwhile requires pushing through the times you don't feel like doing it, which is harder when you have "f u" money. I would specifically ask people who've become wealthy how they manage it, and ask them to hold you accountable to achieving your goals.
Basically you need to develop a few close relationships with people who you can confide in who have been through a similar situation and made it through.
Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#154Money buys you some freedom. Freedom to experiment, freedom not to stress out about making ends meet. The flip side of freedom is that it forces you to have to make weighty decisions.
This happens all the time, for example, when young people inherit fortunes. Some end up doing drugs and/or spending it all - this freedom can definitely wreck lives. One approach that I'm told can help is to define your values and live them out.
For example, you said you created startups. I assume it wasn't just because you were hoping for a payday. Was it because you enjoyed the creative process? Or was it because you wanted to help solve problems? Can you do more of this now that money allows you to?
Or, is your idea of a happy life centered in family, and in that case, what are you doing to start a successful one? Not that it's exclusive of other values.
But basically this freedom lifted your boat from being in the harbor where the channels it could go into were very clear, to being in the high seas where you can go anywhere. You're obviously in the fog. You now need to clarify your life goals to lift the fog, define where you want to take the boat before it bobs towards a storm. Good luck :) it's still a problem to solve but it's a good one to solve.
Recommend reading "Jackpot" by Michael Mechanic, which talks about how the "jackpot moment" affects people.
Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#155Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#156Become the poorest in your social circle and the problem will solve itself. You are hanging out with the wrong people, that’s all. We are social animals, we don’t understand absolute values, only relative. Become poor again by changing your surroundings. Meditation and therapy won’t help. New friends will.
Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#157Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#158Wenn Crypto so viel gutes für dich getan hat engagiert dich doch in dem Bereich und betreibe Aufklärung - mach ein paar YouTube Videos über deine Story oder involviere dich in neue Interessante Projekte wie NFT oder DeFiChain.
Normal würde ich dir empfehlen erstmal etwas zu reisen aber ja, das is gerade echt doof.
Bitte hole dir professionelle Hilfe wenn die Depressionen schlimmer werden, das ist alles kein Spaß.