Earnestly I offer this suggestion: Wake up earlier than you currently do, every day. Walk somewhere a little farther than usual, if even for a cup of coffee. Repeat daily. You’ll know when.
This is honestly a good idea and it sucks to admit that my sleep cycles are a complete chaos
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#82You could barely achieve all the things you mentioned before fixing your psyche.
And even if you would have achieved them, you’d still be where you started - feeling empty and unable to enjoy what you have.
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#83Few people have anything resembling a plan. Just don't ask randos on the internet. You'll hear this often, because there's truth to it: Seek therapy. It's not a sign of weakness. And if the therapist doesn't "click" with you, see a different one.
I have called everyone in my area, many times, nobody could give me an appointment Already on drugs, but taking them makes me feel more shit, because then i have a thought that i'm a broken person and can't live a normal live without depending on meds
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#84One of the common issues is vitamin D deficiency, because our lifestyles have become rather indoorsy. If you have not been going outside during sunlight hours, it is something to get tested for.
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#85- Take exercise. Needn't be epic. A walk is fine. Eat decent food.
- Ingest positive entertainment. Do a linuxfromscratch.org project.
- Find a suitable house of worship. Technology is a useless remedy for the moral vacuum of our day.
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#87Earlier quoted context omitted.
Interesting. How about these: - your sleep (how deep) and meal quality (how healthy) - your sleep and meal patterns (what hours, how consistent) - your personal hygiene (haircut, shaving, cutting of nails) - your presence (punctuality, quality of clothing, how you dress) - frequency of physical activity (sports, exercise, do you still get sunlight) - frequency of you spending time with your family, friends, lovers, a…
Besides hygiene and health, don't even want to attempt the rest If nobody likes me because of that, then let them, i'm not a product that needs to match all the checkboxes
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#88Therapy.
Hang in there, it gets better.
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#89Herein lies the problem. Target smaller goals, even smallest one in the beginning. It will help you get unstuck. I.e. - want to be helpful? Volunteer to walk dogs at the shelter. The dogs will be happy and you'll be doing something useful instead of nothing. (not to mention dogs are just so naturally loving and grateful creatures that even just being around them can help you unclench).
BTW, the dog shelter is just an example. It would be ideal for you to pick up work in a direction you already fell some pull towards. I.e. - would you like to see some improvements in your neighborhood/city? - get involved in local community policits. Would you like to see improvements in an open source project you're using? - start contributing. Etc.
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#90Learn a hobby. Maybe try to be more self sufficient. The more self sufficient you are, the less approval you'll need from others. I dream of a small farm someday. I learn things now that will be useful in the future - like gardening, butchering, taxidermy, culturing mushrooms, caning, etc.
Hobbies keep me distracted, but my motivation doesn't last very long