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The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by alex_smart »

Dracophoenix wrote: post #30
mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

I know this might be off-topic, but are you familiar with ballroom dance? If so, how does one learn to touch in a way that's not to stilted but doesn't, for lack of better phrasing, "overreach" into intimate territory?

It is part of the process of learning the dance form itself. Even in something like sensual bachata, you learn which parts of the body are "safe" and which are not. For example, upper back okay lower back not.

In Kizomba, the partners are pretty much always in a pretty close embrace. Kizomba is impossible to lead without a contact at lower ribcage/upper belly with the partner. In any other setting, this would be a pretty intimate position, but in Kizomba it is not. Learning to be comfortable with it is part of learning Kizomba.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by Terry_Roll »

ChrisRR wrote: post #29
gbog wrote: post #12

Best hug for me is no hug, thanks. I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids. I would bet hug is very much a North American thing. I'm French and hate hugs (we kiss on the cheeks, which feels less intrusive to me, but is crasy intrusive in most non-Latin countries). I live in China and, in normal settings, people here won't hug, won't kiss and won't even shake hand…

It's definitely cultural, I'm in the UK and I hug my friends when I'm saying hello or goodbye, but kissing on the cheek feels like something that old women do

The UK "hug" is this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wxwHL0ObnaE

and this is it in operation in a social setting. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGCK_9AJNL8

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by deepGem »

mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

Reminds me of the ass-out hug remark in Seinfeld.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by oolonthegreat »

deepGem wrote: post #44
mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

Reminds me of the ass-out hug remark in Seinfeld.

btw I couldn't remember that in Seinfeld so I googled it and found this rant from "wedding crashers" https://youtu.be/9Tn0fr7EMow

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Post by puchatek »

mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

What brings you to HN? Are you interested in software as a hobby it from a previous career?

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by exikyut »

WARNING: "tumblrgallery . xyz", the "source" for the header image, promptly fed me explicitly NSFW results. Viewer beware.

On a less PSA note, I visited the site to check if it was a tumblr API scraper, which it does appear to be. Referencing such sites as (ostensibly) first-order sources is IMO just a couple notches beyond plausible deniability, like a site I chanced upon ages ago with a header image "sourced" from images.google.com.

TL;DR: got pedantry-sniped, was handed eyeful. Woops.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by bregma »

gbog wrote: post #12

Best hug for me is no hug, thanks. I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids. I would bet hug is very much a North American thing. I'm French and hate hugs (we kiss on the cheeks, which feels less intrusive to me, but is crasy intrusive in most non-Latin countries). I live in China and, in normal settings, people here won't hug, won't kiss and won't even shake hand…

Amen friend. Please keep out of my personal space.

I'm fine with a good handshake in a professional setting to seal a contract. Shows peaceful intent to respect boundaries. Anything else is a rude intrusion and you're just trying to touch me for your own personal satisfaction. That makes you pretty creepy.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by Matrixik »

mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

Your response is the most important reason for why I love HN, so many interesting "slight" off-topics.

Thank you.

So my slight off-topic to your slight off-topic: I want to learn dance myself but after using "barefoot" shoes for last few years when I see dance (men) shoes they scream to me moving in them will be painful, because of narrow toe box. There are no dance shoes with wide toe box, like anywhere.

So I ordered custom made and should get them next week. It was actually hard to convince shoe maker to create one. I checked them in the middle if fitting is OK, and even that they are not as wide as I would like they are still way better than any ready to buy set.

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