Divorce does funny things

So you wouldn’t be angry if they screwed you in a business deal by lying to you as long as they told you about it after the damage was done? The only way a cheater could be ethical about cheating is to inform their spouse about it before it happens and give them an opportunity to approve, divorce, or discuss.

Where are your 10 lawyers stats from? You realize that lawyers can just be repeating the same thing they found on google? Which could simply be a quote from a forum like this one.

This discussion requires the same standards for all arguments, and no appeals to authority.

4 years ago last month, for me. In some ways it gets better - you don't have to answer to anybody but yourself, again. In others, it doesn't - society now sees you a bit differently, and will continue to do so until you somehow get back "on the rails" with a new partner.

> I can totally understand how some men are obliterated when children are involved and the other spouse is out for blood

Happened to a friend of mine and I thank my lucky star every day that we kept things civil. Men in particular have a lot to lose.

I am going through it right now too.

Very short background:

* Wife abusive from the beginning

* Sexless marriage as she refused

* Beating herself up for years

* She's not earning (highly qualified)

* Did not take care of child or home either

* Tried to frame me however I figured and escaped

* Living separately now

* She filed false and frivolous violence complaint against me

* Not letting me meet my child

* Court granted overly high alimony/maintenance to her

* Lawsuits running delayed due to the pandemic

* She is failing to supply evidence for her case

* Is not even honoring prior court orders

* I have and am diligently filing everything

* Lot more has happened, above is just a summary

Yet, the system is failing to do due diligence and is so far against me nevertheless. I do have good lawyers helping.

I can connect with many comments here on the OP, some of which say that no action is taken against women even if it is proven that they were blatantly lying.

I am facing degradation of cognitive abilities due to prolonged stress, some of which seem permanent.

I am losing trust over the legal system. Marriage as a notion itself feels wrong.

I have little interest left in life other than wishing for justice and taking care of the teenage child. Thoughts of suicide come and go. I have been taking professional help.

Separately:

* I am very reputed in my circles for my honesty and talents and am seen as a role model.

* They share quotes from self-help books -- That it's all meant for good ultimately, trouble is intended by the divine to strengthen good people, it's a beautiful life after all.

* I do recognize that many people are worse off with not even food to eat.

Fortunately the IRS is not involved in judgements from non-tax courts.

The IRS does not care about what structure you use, they only care about compliance. It is very useful to reframe your understanding of the IRS. They are not really adversaries, they will even help you set up this stuff even though they are aware it undermines their own name of revenue. Remember, its only Congress that cares and even then they are pretending. The perception of the IRS comes from most people's interaction with the IRS: retroactive enforcement of a penalty at the least convenient time. Leading cash-poor people to want to hide from the IRS, leading to greater vulnerability.

By reporting taxes to the IRS or filing reports to the Treasury (their parent agency), yes, it may seem counterintuitive that you are associating yourself with additional properties to the literal government. But that doesn't inherently create consequences to other branches of the government, judges, or private creditors, it also doesn't mean they those other parties get to know about it.

Finally, one last thing to remember, obfuscating the existence or movement of money is not illegal. Its another reason why the IRS doesn't care about anyone's convoluted structure of companies and trusts around the world, because they are not illegal and neither are most transactions between them. A money laundering charge, for example, requires an illicit origin of funds. So it can only be a tacked on charge after the government has discovered the origin and the origin was illicit. As such, using your own legally earned money post-tax money and sheltering it in a convoluted way garners no issue from the IRS. And if it earns a little bit, you can still report and pay taxes on it. Also, the new thing in this century is that you also don't need a bank account to hold liquid assets under these organization's names, therefore nuking the Treasury/FinCEN report of foreign bank accounts when that was part of the strategy.