It is false to tell people that self-hosting has to be that hard. If you know what you are doing and put the services in a jail / VM only not being exposed to the internet, you can leave things unpatched very long, and only update them when bug fixes or new features of recent versions are needed.
If you are a 50,000 people company where your own employees could be the adversaries maybe not. But in this case you also have the budget to have a proper security team. Apart from this case, with proper virtualization and no direct internet exposure, you'll find out that 99.99% of CVEs are not a risk to you.
If you are under-budgeted, it's fine to neglect such internal services and check vulnerabilities once a year or less. However always stay on top of the CVEs of internet facing services.
My point is your message is basically the propaganda of cloud services "doing it yourself is HARD", "email is HARD", "this and that is HARD" lol.
Self-hosting in jails not being directly exposed to the internet is a productivity booster as it allows you to not fix what works FOR YOU. Just keep using this 4 years old version if it works well for you. But make informed choices as much as possible, try to stay on top of CVEs even if you decide not to patch these internal services 99% of the time. But even if you can't stay on top of your non-internet facing jails, it won't be a real risk 99% of the time.