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> f it were an actual instinct, I would possess it as would essentially all people. I do not possess that instinct what-so-ever. The existence of variation does not disprove the existence of trends.
Of course. However the parent stated it as a "We" that was implied to span humanity. It doesn't.
Why noise is necessary for our brains to perform at a high-level
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You may have established boundaries, but you almost certainly have your wife to thank for 99% of the enforcement of them.
Reminds me of a coworker that had a baby at the same time as me and my wife. He was shocked at how poorly ours was sleeping, as his slept all night. Then at the holiday party, we remarked to his wife how nice it must be. She laughed and laughed. Turns out she was getting up multiple times every night while he slept all night, oblivious.
There is no manual on how to be a parent. Don't tell our kids that we're making it up as we go.
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#153I've worked in private offices, cubicles, open plan offices, coffeeshops, libraries, and now many many hours in home both when other family members are around and when they aren't. I spend a lot of time thinking about sound and focus. The conclusion I came to is that humans have a few emotional needs in order to reach deep focus: 1. We need to not be distracted and we need to feel certainty that we will not be distra…
Your theory is interesting but what about the studies that link noise to stress and health issues?[0] Maybe background noises of voices have a different effect? [0] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5898791/
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The boundary that the OP needs to enforce is actually with the caregiver more than the children (although even young children are capable of learning and respecting boundaries). The caregiver needs to buy into the fact that it's beneficial for the bread winner of the family to have uninterrupted work periods. When I read your statement it feels like you're saying you think the OP is just throwing proclamations over t…
Both parents are caregivers in a marriage, there's no single caregiver. What happens if both work during regular office hours (as in my marriage)? If you have very young kids, it's impossible to have a distraction free work environment at home unless you find someone to take care of the kids and enforce the no distractions rule. People often assume, somewhat unfairly, that this person should be the mother. But what i…
But many people I met seem sold on the dream they can 'have it all' without thinking about the price
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Both parents are caregivers in a marriage, there's no single caregiver. What happens if both work during regular office hours (as in my marriage)? If you have very young kids, it's impossible to have a distraction free work environment at home unless you find someone to take care of the kids and enforce the no distractions rule. People often assume, somewhat unfairly, that this person should be the mother. But what i…
Its seems unrealistic for a couple to both have busy careers and also children and expect to have it all without compromises or another caregiver. But many people I met seem sold on the dream they can 'have it all' without thinking about the price
Another caregiver is a viable option, but then again the pandemic hit and in some countries, for a while, it was forbidden to have strangers at home and daycare was closed.
Many people simply assume the woman must be the caregiver. This assumption by default will affect you even in workplaces which pay lip service to equality. Source: me.
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#156I've worked in private offices, cubicles, open plan offices, coffeeshops, libraries, and now many many hours in home both when other family members are around and when they aren't. I spend a lot of time thinking about sound and focus. The conclusion I came to is that humans have a few emotional needs in order to reach deep focus: 1. We need to not be distracted and we need to feel certainty that we will not be distra…
Maybe I don't care for tribemates?
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Have you ever tried to monitor your CO2 levels? I thought it was all about temperature until I got one and learned that my home office climbs up to 2500 ppm. At this level, it creates: "Fatigue, loss of focus and concentration, uncomfortable 'stuffy' feeling in the air"
2500ppm? Good grief. I notice a slight blunting of my mental edge at about 1000ppm. I always maintain enough ventilation to keep below about 800ppm. I don't guess; I monitor. At work, in our delapidated office, I've seen up to 1800ppm by lunchtime. No wonder no one can concentrate in there. It's not cheap, but you can buy heat-recovery ventilation for domestic properties: stale air is pumped out, fresh air is pumped…
I open all the windows once a day to create a draft and it drops to 600-800ppm. But by then, I need to close them all again to reheat the apartment. This has the side effects of getting rid of all the humidity in the apartment and then the heating makes the situation even worst.
Most people I know go the entire winter without ever opening any windows. I wonder what their CO2 levels are.