It would be nice if age or duration of marriage was also put into play. Additionally how much people moved. It's not always true, but sometimes one person in a relationship is the "portable" one who can find a job in many areas.
Which jobs most often pair together among married couples
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#122Some jobs have very skewed gender ratios: so Early childhood teachers don’t marry other Early childhood teachers, and relatively few Police officers marry other Police officers.
I would expect people with working class jobs as far more likely to marry other working class people, and respectively for professional jobs. Hard to see from this - needs some sort of cluster analysis.
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#123Earlier quoted context omitted.
> it appears as though software analysts don't like intermarrying What happened to 'software analysts'? Is that even a career today? Sounds like something straight out of the 80s. Is it a 'product owner'? But the real explanation is that realistically 90% of people meet their spouses in university.
According to FB only 28% of married couples meet in college.
So that's still probably a vast majority of people with the predicate of people who went a university at all?
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#125A few interesting ones in there, such as Dentists, who other than other dentists, most often marry secretaries and assistants.
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#126Many anecdotal guesses are validated by this data. Doctors and agricultural workers are the obvious standouts, but I see a few more too. Us programmers stick together. Quite a high rate of marrying within the community. Lawyers show a similarly high number. A criticism of the study, is that it does not normalize by how many of these professions are in the general population. So, it appears as though software analysts…
> it appears as though software analysts don't like intermarrying What happened to 'software analysts'? Is that even a career today? Sounds like something straight out of the 80s. Is it a 'product owner'? But the real explanation is that realistically 90% of people meet their spouses in university.
On the topic of analysts, I've been wondering for a long time about "systems analyst" which used to be the cool job in computing in the 1980s but then essentially vanished. I was never quite sure what systems analysts did.
Getting back to the data visualization, a lot of it seems to be that male-dominated jobs pair with female-dominated jobs, which isn't particularly surprising.
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#127I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.
Funny enough, my anecdata has been the inverse. Thats is being a software engineer has been sufficient evidence for people to walk away without even getting to know me. Which is definitely interesting because I've had people say "I cant believe you're an engineer, you're nothing like the other engineers I know" outside my work context.
Wow - that is still happening? The initial interest followed by that sudden glazed disinterest as soon as they find out your job. Or is it location based where they have formed a stereotype from previous encounters? I had thought a well paying job would be a good start to a relationship (enough money does prevent a lot of problems). Personally I don’t like judgmental people (I’m meta-judgemental) so it usually has been no great issue to be ignored.
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#128Earlier quoted context omitted.
> you will save on taxes ... if you pair a high earner with a low/no earner
This is correct. When I was still in grad school and the better half was working as an engineer I pretty much got the ultimatum that we needed to get married for the tax break. We had been living together for 7 years. But then we were both working and living in SF as engineers and I did my taxes on my own for the first time about 3 years in from graduate school. I was shocked that the penalty for being married vs. no…
They changed the bracket differences for single, married filing jointly, and married filing seperately back in 2018. Married filing seperately is basically the same as being single these days.
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#129I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.
Plus we have so many additional risks of confrontation. Space vs Tabs, Vim vs Emacs, Deb vs Rpm...
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Well, consider, about 50 years ago almost every child was raised by married parents, today about half are. Having so many people with no lived experience means lower cultural forces behind asking them to participate in an expensive party, even though marriage is so good for raising children (which used to be the purpose of marriage).
Why is an expensive party important? You can certainly get married at a Church or at a courthouse for pretty cheap and a party isn't required, but even if it is, you can throw a decent party without thousands of dollars spent. I've been to many of them in small towns across the Midwest.
If you are already cohabitating, marriage is an expense you can indefinitely procrastinate.
Especially if you see what others are doing on social media, your mental model of the expense continues to inflate and the pressure to procrastinate grows.