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Re: Which jobs most often pair together among married couples

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Post by bad_good_guy »

bedobi wrote: post #66

I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.

I have just learned I'm the same way. I had actually never thought about it, but I had an unexpected physical negative reaction when I saw the stats on software developers so often pairing with other software developers.

Just something about it turns my stomach. I hope its not some internalised misogyny, as I have no similar response to idea of a partner in any other high skilled job, such as physician, or barrister, or researcher, etc.

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Post by Gunax »

valbaca wrote: post #59

Honestly, kind of boring results. - Volume wins out: there are lots of teachers and nurses - Like-marries-like: most marry someone in their own profession Not that boring is bad. Just interesting that the trends overshadow any kind of special results.

Yea, I think a more interesting analysis would have based on frequency of profession. That is, how far away (+% / -%) from a random matching is it?

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Post by chiph »

beerandt wrote: post #56
screye wrote: post #22

Many anecdotal guesses are validated by this data. Doctors and agricultural workers are the obvious standouts, but I see a few more too. Us programmers stick together. Quite a high rate of marrying within the community. Lawyers show a similarly high number. A criticism of the study, is that it does not normalize by how many of these professions are in the general population. So, it appears as though software analysts…

Except many couples meet in school, where they'd be exposed to a disproportionate number of potential spouses within their own field of study, and maybe to a lesser extent others in related programs within the same college. Which would also be skewed by things like length of study and personality types attracted to particular interests. Eg, Doctors and lawyers often don't want to get married until after school, at wh…

We had one woman in my graduating comp-sci class. One. And she had been dating someone seriously for a few years.

We guys had better luck dating Early Childhood Education majors, which is supported by their chart.

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Post by tiborsaas »

maerF0x0 wrote: post #107
bedobi wrote: post #66

I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.

Funny enough, my anecdata has been the inverse. Thats is being a software engineer has been sufficient evidence for people to walk away without even getting to know me. Which is definitely interesting because I've had people say "I cant believe you're an engineer, you're nothing like the other engineers I know" outside my work context.

Are you me? Once I couldn't convince a girl that I'm a nerd.

A colleague of mine dated a really hot girl from Tinder and I asked him if he told her that he's a software engineer.

- Not yet, came the answer :)

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Post by dboreham »

NikolaNovak wrote: post #73
bedobi wrote: post #66

I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.

I once dated a lovely beautiful nerdy funny intelligent successful software engineer. Our first five dates were awesome. So much agreement and joy and commonality. Instant connection and camaraderie. Further on we realized we didn't bring enough to relationship. We didn't want the"gender I'm attracted version of myself". We each wanted somebody to bring new perspectives, challenge us in ways that work and nerdy frien…

Could be something to do with a tech-literate person is _more_ valuable to an arts person than to another tech person. E.g. arts person wants their small plumbing jobs done, their offspring taught math properly, and so on, but other tech person doesn't need that because they do those things themselves.

Re: Which jobs most often pair together among married couples

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Post by tiborsaas »

lowkey_ wrote: post #42
mensetmanusman wrote: post #33

This will be kind of skewed towards the wealthy, as marriages are becoming less obtainable by the lower classes.

Marriage is actually a great financial choice for most people. If marriage rates are dropping, I'd blame our culture — the financial incentives are clearly there.

It's a shame to marry because of financial incentives.
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