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As a counterpoint to your edit, personally work exhausts me to a level where weekends are mostly spent recuperating/doing chores and not being productive. It’s a week or two into the breaks I’ve taken from work where I start being productive in ways I rarely manage during my working periods.
Weekends exhaust me because kids and wife vs work and colleagues.
Do something for others. Do stuff for yourself too, that's fine, but don't look inward only. Be a good human to others, too.
I'm far from retiring, but I always take a break between jobs. It used to be only 2 months, then last time it was 6 months. I'm very happy to be in tech because it allows us for that. I don't decide beforehand how much time I'm taking, instead I just reassess myself "am I still productive? Am I still enjoying doing nothing?" When the answer is no that's when I get back to work. I love DIY so I've used that time to re…
> Also I wonder if I'll still be able to do this when I'm in my 40s or 50s. My parents always taught me it gets tougher to find a job as you get older. Obviously someone that's good will always find, but I wonder in general how aging will apply to tech. I work for 2-3 years and take anywhere from 6-18 months off in between jobs. I'm pushing 50 and it hasn't been a problem. I hear the ageism claim all the time, but I'…
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A job being your identity is a health challenge to be worked through with a therapist. Enjoy your job, for sure, but you make it your identity is to create expectations that cannot be met when unavoidable life transitions occur. A job is what you do, not who you are. https://hbr.org/2019/12/what-happens-when-your-career-become... https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/wealth/earn/why-your-id... https://www.wbur.org/her…
If I go spend 40 to 80 hours kn something for the majority of my life, shouldn't it be an important part of my identity.
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> the weekends are a pretty good picture of how we'd behave at retirement. I think this depends on how one’s current job is affecting them. If you’re near burnout or just work in a very stressful environment, the weekends are more about recovery from the week and might not be a good predictor of future choices when not stressed/burnt out. Basing this comment mostly on personal experience since I’ve had both productiv…
To be fair if you’re burned out for a long time at work retirement will still look like your burned out weekends since recovery can take a long time.
- Recovery
- Steady state
I think understanding that both exist is important so as not to fall into negative patterns of thinking like "I'm just wasting my time away" vs. "I'm giving my system a very needed break".
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I've been daydreaming about this for years. How did you get into building polebarns? And then framing houses? Who did you convince to take you on? Did you have prior experience?
i found a job listing on craigslist and called the guy, he hired me on the spot. for the framing job i walked up to a framing crew and asked if they needed a guy. they did and so i got hired. i just convinced the boss. the place where i moved to has lots of small crews and lots of home building going on right now. previous relevant experience includes woodworking and machining. i also watched a fair amount of youtube…
The days do feel longer but not in a bad way. There is plenty to do even when doing nothing. I exercise regularly, eat healthier and my overall health is a lot better now. I have started traveling a bit which I expect will increase once Covid situation improves across the world.
There is a ton of books I would love to read but so far I have not found time for it.
Before quitting (and before COVID), I was working remotely and living out of my backpack in places all around the world. I lived in Central America for a few months and learned Spanish to a conversational level. I experienced what it's like to live in a conflict zone in the Middle East. I couchsurfed in strangers houses in lots of countries and places off the beaten path and got a glimpse into many very different lives. I took time off to do multi-week hiking trips in high mountains and wilderness areas, often solo. I did some workaways housesitting, petsitting, helping out with construction and/or gardening.
Now that I no longer have to work, I'm doing more of that plus spending more time learning things (languages, dancing, etc.), getting more fit, volunteering with youth, and so on. I'm hoping find a more impactful way to help people suffering from things I've suffered with in the past, we'll see what I end up doing on that front beyond volunteering.
I'm far from retiring, but I always take a break between jobs. It used to be only 2 months, then last time it was 6 months. I'm very happy to be in tech because it allows us for that. I don't decide beforehand how much time I'm taking, instead I just reassess myself "am I still productive? Am I still enjoying doing nothing?" When the answer is no that's when I get back to work. I love DIY so I've used that time to re…
And HR depts are just fine with that? (taking 2-6 months off) I get the impression They prefer those who stay on the wheel, as they don't have to worry you will just decide you need to take a break from working again.
I quit tech, moved to a rural area, and bought some farmland at the beginning of the year. got a couple different jobs to learn how to do things. first building polebarns and then framing houses. got to journeyman in framing last month and quit. finishing up my first barn and now i am getting ready to build a greenhouse over the winter. been preparing the soil. will be ready for planting next year. technically i didn…
To other people commenting here, farming is hard work and long hours. Don't romanticize it until you've actually spent time doing it.
at the same time. it is a lot of work, you should try it before you just jump in. ive had suburban gardens for years. so i kinda know what to expect.