Wouldn't the solution be planning better?
Sure, I understand that making a new car in combination with making a new ECU or brake controller on a new process is going to be stupidly dangerous and troublesome. So just don't.
Rather than doing it as a part of a single project, there should be a department or separate company making the ECU/controller. This way when the semiconductor company moves forwards, ECU Group starts a project targeting the new process, and releases the results when it's ready. And meanwhile what goes into the cars is the ECU built on the previous, well tested process.
Also, are modern cars really in much need of custom silicon? Micro-controllers are stupidly powerful now. There has to be off the shelf hardware capable of handling what a car needs. There are long standing architectures like ARM that don't require starting from scratch every time somebody makes a better chip.