I worked for a gentleman[0] who, while not a programmer by trade[1], he was an old Unix guy and a Linux early-adopter. All of that to say that when he'd made a recommendation for me to explore this or that technology, I generally listened. He pointed me at Ruby on Rails.
I admit I came into researching Rails a little reluctantly and pretty early on, as well. That probably biased my opinion of things a lot more than it should have but a few tutorials later, and after fooling around with a toy project over the weekend I thought: "Neat. But either it's daaamn slow, or I'm doing something horribly wrong." I don't remember what I loved/liked but I remember being annoyed at odd laginess[2]. The more I investigated within the community, the more I felt like I was corresponding to "a bunch of kids". And I don't mean "kids" as in insulting-term-used-for-early-20-something-know-it-alls[3], but ... like 12-year-old boys trying to be popular, and failing -- a bit immature with unnecessary drama. I ended up not exploring much beyond that weekend. It's not that I found the community to be entirely unwelcoming; really seemed like it was. It just wasn't a group I was positive I wanted to be a part of.
Of course, not too long after that, I recall discovering the term "Brogrammer" loosely tied to Ruby on Rails and I thought, "Yep! That's what I meant by 'kids'". I remember reading a rage-quit post from someone that hit the front page of HN[4] a little while later, and a few other things here and there. It seemed at a certain point, the things written about Rails that found my eyes were more frequently some form of drama/nonsense than anything telling me why I needed to look more closely at Ruby on Rails.
[0] Miss ya, Lou, if you're out there!
[1] And not in any way a middle-management guy -- he managed multiple development teams over the years and was put in charge of probably the hardest job in his career, managing 6 people with critical, mostly different, responsibilities.
[2] My apologies for the vagueness, it's out of concern that faulty recollection will result in me maligning something incorrectly. I did these exercises monthly, for about a decade. This one lasted about 5 days because I decided it wasn't worth further effort; I wasn't going to use it.
[3] Yeah, I was absolutely one of those and have found that calling out others faults is really stupid when you share them.
[4] Zed Shaw; not sure where the original is but if memory serves, calmer heads prevailed after a short time, he took down the original and I didn't Google so I'll shut up and share the link I found: http://harmful.cat-v.org/software/ruby/rails/is-a-ghetto