If you're trying to build a tool to help deepen connections, it shouldn't be around sharing things that you do. We've tried that model for the last 15 years and it's clearly failed. I think what people crave these days is human connection through interactions. I think the biggest problem with friendships these days is people want friends without all the work that goes with it.
Hmsklt – App to help friends form deeper relationships
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#521. Tech is not the solution to everything. Am I the only one to notice the absurdity of needing yet another app to "connect with friends"? I can see the use of tech to reach out to people you know from abroad, but... Whats wrong with Facetime or similar tech? 2. The template questions seem overly intrusive to me. I'd much rather answer "any covid hobbies?" then any pre-written gratitude nonesense, esp. in written com…
Yes, and I’ll take that further and ask “what’s wrong with writing a letter and paying the cost of a stamp to have that letter delivered?”
It sounds like the prompted experience of homeskillet is not for me. I prefer 1:1 communication and 1:x (as in this forum; I find many HN comments to be at least an engaging diversion, and I do not expect conversations but a healthy back and forth does add something useful), and the pace of pencil on paper suits me just fine for maintaining friendships outside of the few closest.
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#53Maybe it's not, but this sure looks like a predatory data grab.
Even if it's not, they could get hacked or acquired by someone else along with all the personal videos and data
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#54If you're trying to build a tool to help deepen connections, it shouldn't be around sharing things that you do. We've tried that model for the last 15 years and it's clearly failed. I think what people crave these days is human connection through interactions. I think the biggest problem with friendships these days is people want friends without all the work that goes with it.
I wonder if a shared struggle/experience is needed to forge strong bonds. Not just going out, eating/drinking/dancing over and over, but a series of ups and downs.
Maybe individuals becoming less dependent on others due to a combination of earning power and internet facilitating ease of accessing information and communicating with literally anyone and not just those around you changed the parameters of life. Hence relationships are less likely to experience the conditions required to create the necessary bonds.
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#55If you're trying to build a tool to help deepen connections, it shouldn't be around sharing things that you do. We've tried that model for the last 15 years and it's clearly failed. I think what people crave these days is human connection through interactions. I think the biggest problem with friendships these days is people want friends without all the work that goes with it.
>I think the biggest problem with friendships these days is people want friends without all the work that goes with it.
We have a very convenience driven "me first" culture. While it's healthy to always keep in mind your needs, aside from maybe you close family/friends, few will, you also have to consider other people and learn to reach agreeable compromises.
Sometimes it means driving somewhere you don't want to and spending half a day to make someone else happy when you could spend that same half a day making sure you exclusively are happy. Social relationships, maybe most human relationships in general, are about reaching reasonable compromises that doesn't always put self above all. We seem to be moving in a direction where we put self above all though and you get a lot of lonely people who pamper themselves. Some may enjoy that sort of lifestyle but not me, it seems very lonely.
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#56> Anything spark joy yesterday?
Who are you and what have you done to my friend
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#57Hey everyone - we're working on Hmsklt.app to help friends form deeper relationships and more authentic connection. - Join a small group of friends for a 7-day "bonfire" centered around a theme like Daily Gratitudes, Small Moments in Your Day, Weird Fun Stories, Self Love, Childhood Memories, or Highlights + Lowlights. - Each day, the group will get a prompt to respond with short videos — a chance to reflect on the t…
> no posing
> "Weird Fun Stories", "Highlights + Lowlights"
Good luck, but I have to say this is one of the weirdest sounding apps I have heard of, and something I (and probably most of my friends) would never use. I don't see how forcing conversation around some kind of "theme" produces "authentic" and "deep" connections - those are things that only come organically
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#58Landing page copy is cringe af. "Daily Gratitudes"? :pukes in mouth:
Re: Hmsklt – App to help friends form deeper relationships
#591. Tech is not the solution to everything. Am I the only one to notice the absurdity of needing yet another app to "connect with friends"? I can see the use of tech to reach out to people you know from abroad, but... Whats wrong with Facetime or similar tech? 2. The template questions seem overly intrusive to me. I'd much rather answer "any covid hobbies?" then any pre-written gratitude nonesense, esp. in written com…
> Tech is not the solution to everything. Am I the only one to notice the absurdity of needing yet another app to "connect with friends"? I can see the use of tech to reach out to people you know from abroad, but... Whats wrong with Facetime or similar tech?
That is so damn correct. I don’t have the typical social media presence. Some of friends and family constantly pesters me that I am hard to reach. In response I keep telling them, we kept in touch just fine when there was no Facebook, so just pick up the phone and call/text. And astonishingly, it works better than typical social connection avenues.
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#60What is a "deep connection" between friends?
> Hear about the small moments in your friends’ days and feel like you’re a part of their daily lives.
Wouldn't "be a part of their daily lives" be better than "feel like a part of their daily lives"?