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A stranger secretly lived in my home

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Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

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post #117

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If you legally live in someone’s home, in most jurisdictions (in the US) then you have at least some rights even if you don’t pay rent. The alternative is that one partner can abuse the other, then throw them out on the street if they wish or if the victim complains. I think it would be better if there was a real third option, but I’m not aware of it.

Reclaim any of the 51+% of our federal budget on weapons we either don't ever shoot or leave in the desert, use the reclaimed former tax revenue to maintain separate apartments longer, even if just a bedroom one rents.

military spending is 51% of discretionary spending. https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQ6wwEz... Not 51% of government spending, which is much much larger

Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

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Reclaim any of the 51+% of our federal budget on weapons we either don't ever shoot or leave in the desert, use the reclaimed former tax revenue to maintain separate apartments longer, even if just a bedroom one rents.

military spending is 51% of discretionary spending. https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQ6wwEz... Not 51% of government spending, which is much much larger

How many trillions per decade is that?

Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

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This reminded me of my aunt, who recently expressed concerns like this. Someone uses my toothpaste, "I just bought this tube a few weeks ago and it is almost empty" for example. And similar with ice cream etc. Thing is, it was her. She has recently been committed to a facility with Alzheimer's. At certain times, as the disease drifts in and out, she is quite present and sane, and cannot explain to herself the lost ti…

Have a similar situation at the moment. My grandmother has dementia and pretty much doesn't know where to go or what to do anymore. Is on meds almost all the time. Today she went like 6 times to the bathroom in an hour and this happened like for 3 - 4 hrs. I don't know if this is psychological / or from the brain or an actual urinary infection. I guess it's hard to find out this kind of stuff when she's on meds all the time. Interestingly, my grandfather is perfectly fine (she's like 79, he's 90 !). He's starting to have a bad eye but apart from that still goes out and about. Of course, his heart is sort of more tired now but he can still drive, walk around, go buy stuff. But my grandma can't, I can see in her eyes that she can't really recognize me or usually only recognizes her husband, unfortunately. Also, I had a grandfather who lost his life due to alzheimers, although I didn't really spend much time with him, or at least do not remember it but he was a veterinarian and died of relatively young age ( ~ 66 y). My theory for the cause of dementia for my grandma is that she stopped doing and having interactions with her friends and family. As we grew older, we stopped coming to their house, having dinner, having birthdays, family got more dispersed and she hasn't done much about it; the fact is, it's been only about a year and a half since the dementia first started (she was very functional like 2 years ago), probably the pandemic blew the fuse... She used to do all kinds of things back in the day. She coordinated exchange programs between my city and a sister city in the U.S. for students to learn the culture, language and study there. Also, she doesn't really have any friends afaik, just sometimes talks to her family but otherwise, has lost connections; while my grandfather, still looks for real estate to buy, things to do, art to buy/sell, etc. Still talks to some friends out and about.

Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

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That's hilarious. How did the rest of the conversation go?

I just dropped him off at the nearest light. He would leave a small bag in the car from then on so he didn't have to lug all his stuff around. This was around 1989, the location is Veemarkt in Amsterdam ('Veemarkt' is dutch for cattle market). Back then homeless people in Amsterdam were fairly rare, now there are 100's of them.

SF enters the chat ...

Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

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post #106

There was the guy who dug a secret underground bunker under Hampstead heath: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2020/mar/05/invisible-city-...

There was also a story about an elder woman living in closets or even a cupboard in a home of some family, for over a year iirc.

This is it I think: https://www.nbcnews.com/id/wbna24889337

Turns out that one can easily find more than one such story, DDG even helpfully suggests the remaining keywords.

Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

#156
post #95

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He also might have attacked or raped someone. That is not a safe situation. It’s not just about property.

90% of victims of rape and sexual assault know their attacker. The prototypical rapist is not a disheveled homeless man attacking you in the middle of the night. Rather, he is your boss, your friend, your relative, your date. If you find yourself warning people of rape and assault when talking about the homeless, think hard about why that is. Because going by the numbers, it’s the housed who you should be afraid of w…

I am surprised you were downvoted. What you are saying is 100% correct. Most assaults/rapes/… are committed by people you know. Not strangers.

Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

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post #150

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> The alternative is that one partner can abuse the other, then throw them out on the street if they wish Thats literally what happened here. You have a blindspot to men being the victim like the person here was.

How do you know she abused him? Seems like you’re jumping to conclusions; (almost) none of us know anything about the situation so perhaps it is better to avoid speculating?

neither do the cops but they chose to put him out of his home at her word. Last I checked, women can buy their own damn houses.

Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

#158
post #117

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If you legally live in someone’s home, in most jurisdictions (in the US) then you have at least some rights even if you don’t pay rent. The alternative is that one partner can abuse the other, then throw them out on the street if they wish or if the victim complains. I think it would be better if there was a real third option, but I’m not aware of it.

Reclaim any of the 51+% of our federal budget on weapons we either don't ever shoot or leave in the desert, use the reclaimed former tax revenue to maintain separate apartments longer, even if just a bedroom one rents.

The US spends under 10% of its federal budget on the military. In 2020 it spent more just on healthcare for the elderly than the entire military budget. Here, please take a look at the numbers straight from the CBO! https://www.cbo.gov/publication/57170

As for your second sentence- the total value of the US real estate market is about $56 trillion, so I kind of doubt that the government is going to make much of a dent here. There's not a lot of places where you can say even the US government doesn't have enough money, but....

Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

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I'm trying to get this straight. If he owns the house and lives there, then why do his tenant's rights supersede his own? The tenant might live there and thus has certain rights, but so does he .

Not if he's determined to be an aggressor in the eyes of law enforcement in the (at least, US) jurisdiction.

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Re: A stranger secretly lived in my home

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It can be but usually isn't. The value of a local, penalty-backed law is in it's ability to guide bulk behavior. These laws imply a bargain we make with our governments, that enforcement will be limited to the stated objective. Reducing traffic speeds by citing a few speeders - this upholds that bargain. Citing every possible speeder while those fines fatten the police budget is a gross perversion.

Maybe my own opinion is coloured by the fact that I live in France, where speeding cameras are very common and seem effective in reducing speeding, but fining every speeder with automatic cameras seems a better solution than citing speeders at random

The gilets jaunes felt quite differently about the speed cameras.

What I found really effective were traffic lights with speed meters that would turn red for five seconds if you were over the limit. No cameras, no fines, no police.

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