If you're interested in keeping up to date with the project I describe below, please follow me on twitter @NirvanaCore.
I had many of the same concerns with node.js. Every time I attempted to wrap my head around how I'd write the code I needed to write, it seemed like node was making it more complicated. Since I learned erlang several years ago, and first started thinking about parallel programming a couple decades ago, this seemed backwards to me. Why do event driven programming, when erlang is tried and true and battle tested?
The reason is, there isn't something like node.js for erlang, and so I set out to fix that.
For about a year I've been thinking about design, and for a couple months I've been implementing a new web application platform that I'm calling Nirvana. (Sorry if that sounds pretentious. It's my personal name- I've been storing up over a decades worth of requirements for my "ideal" web framework.)
Nirvana is made up of an embarrassingly small amount of code. It allows you to build web apps and services in coffeescript (or javascript) and have them execute in parallel in erlang, without having to worry too much about the issues of parallel programming.
It makes use of some great open source projects (which do all the heavy lifting): Webmachine, erlang_js and Riak. I plan to ship it with some appropriate server side javascript and coffee script libraries built in.
Some advantages of this approach: (from my perspective)
1) Your code lives in Riak. This means rather than deploying your app to a fleet of servers, you push your changes to a database.
2) All of the I/O actions your code might do are handled in parallel. For instance, to render a page, you might need to pull several records from the database, and then based on them, generate a couple map/reduce queries, and then maybe process the results from the queries, and finally you want to render the results in a template. The record fetches happen in parallel automagically in erlang, as do the map/reduce queries, and components defined for your page (such as client js files, or css files you want to include) are fetched in parallel as well.
3) We've adopted Riak's "No Operations Department" approach to scalability. That is to say, every node of Nirvana is identical, running the same software stack. To add capacity, you simply spin up a new node. All of your applications are immediately ready to be hosted on that node, because they live in the database.
4) Caching is built in, you don't have to worry about it. It is pretty slick- or I think it will be pretty slick-- because Basho did all the heavy lifting already in Riak. We use a Riak in-memory backend, recently accessed data is stored in RAM on one of the nodes. This means each machine you add to your cluster increases the total amount of cache RAM available.
5) There's a rudimentary sessions system built in, and built in authentication and user accounts seem eminently doable, though not at first release. Also templating, though use any js you want if you don't like the default.
So, say, you're writing a blog. You write a couple handlers, one for reading an article, one for getting a list of articles and one for writing an article. You tie them to /, /blog/article-id, and /post. For each of these handlers, any session information is present in the context of your code.
To get the list of articles, you just run the query, format the results as you like with your template preference and emit the html. If it is a common query, you just set a "freshness" on it, and it will be cached for that long. (EG: IF you post new articles once a week, you could set the freshness to an hour and it would pull results from the cache, only doing the actual query once an hour.)
To display a particular article, run a query for the article id from the URL (which is extracted for you) and, again this can be cached. For posting, you can check the session to see if the person is authorized, or the header (using cookies) and push the text into a new record, or update an existing record. Basically this is like most other frameworks, only your queries are handled in parallel.
The goal is to allow rapid development of apps, easy code re-use, and easy, built-in scalability, without having to think much about scalability, or have an ops department.
This is the very first time I've publicly talked about the project. I think that I'm doing something genuinely new, and genuinely worth doing, but its possible I've overlooked something important, or otherwise embarrassed myself. I don't mean to hijack this thread, but felt that I needed to out my project sometime. A real announcement will come when I ship.
If you're interested in keeping up to date with the project I describe above, please follow me on twitter @NirvanaCore.
EDIT TO ADD:
-- This uses Riak as the database with data persisted to disk in BitCask. The Caching is done by a parallel backend in Riak (Riak supports multiple simultaneous backends) which lives in RAM. So, the RAM works as a cache but the data is persisted to disk.