I am a self taught programmer who first learned python and then learned Haskell. A lot of concepts in python were difficult when I was new and the same is true for Haskell. I found the Haskell community to be very welcoming and very willing to explain their terms and the reasoning behind them, and I dont find the negative characterizing from you and others about them to be true at all. That's why it really bothers me how you and others are so willing to slander a whole community based on what I perceive as not the truth at all. That's also why I wonder if you would be ok with non-programmers making the same generalization about programmers.
In my experience concepts like Functors, Monoids, Monads etc. are difficult, not because they are complicated, but because they are seemingly too simple. A Functor is pretty much something you can map, and every programmer knows list.map, so what's the point? The point is that when you have some infrastructure around using them, then you can see new ways of using them, and you can see that mapping makes sense over a lot more structures than lists. Even over something like a function "a -> b". The problem is that non-functional languages doesn't have this infrastructure around them, so they are not very useful, and so its difficult for people not using functional languages to understand what the point is. I dont really think there is any way to get past this unfortunately and the only way to get comfortable with the terms is to program in a functional language.