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I remember this incident from my 8th grade, this one kid was held back a year, because he failed. He was a typical bully - harassed the kids and teachers, constantly got into trouble. I was a small, skinny kid, the class joker, academically good and in most ways happy go lucky. So, we are giving our tests, and this guy would sit behind me, and would constantly bug me to show the answers. I think, I complied a few tim…
I remember this incident from my 8th grade, this one kid was held back a year, because he failed. He was a typical bully - harassed the kids and teachers, constantly got into trouble. I was a small, skinny kid, the class joker, academically good and in most ways happy go lucky. So, we are giving our tests, and this guy would sit behind me, and would constantly bug me to show the answers. I think, I complied a few tim…
What is he doing now?
See: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assholes:_A_Theory Today on the train I saw some bullies. Kids wouldn't let the quieter kid sit with them. What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth. This is just how humans work and certain societies ar…
I've read that in some countries bullying and workplace harassment are considered group dynamics, rather than the product of individual bullies which makes sense to me. It seems to fit your example and I think it provides some useful frames for thinking about this and how to improve things.
People are going to "probe" you with some more or less controversial claims or comments and see how you will behave. This is part of the culture and is honestly tiring.
I would not call it "bullying" yet, but it is still a violent way to probe someone's character.