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Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?
A low stress, high joy life is preferable to these Really Famous Names we could drop.
Sure, they may go on rocket rides, but do they know any peace?
Maybe.
Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?
Boring advice, yet the majority of people are overweight and in debt.
Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?
Who owns the definition of 'successful'? A low stress, high joy life is preferable to these Really Famous Names we could drop. Sure, they may go on rocket rides, but do they know any peace? Maybe.
There is certainly a price to pay for greatness, and some are willing to give it a shot. It seems so condescending to look down on poor them, not knowing peace when perhaps that is not the thing they are searching for.
Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?
Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?
Because emotions rules. It doesn't matter that you know what you have to do, eat well, do exercise, how to prioritize, what's good for you and what's not. Unless you steer your emotions in the right direction, you won't be able to achieve anything, because resistance and stregth of will won't get you very far. And changing your emotions is really hard, because they're mostly formed in your youth, and doing so need a…
Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?
Eat less calories than you burn. Spend less money than you make. Boring advice, yet the majority of people are overweight and in debt.
Also, CICO seems to be actually incorrect from what I read on it. Body's more like a thermostat than a steam engine and will work against you such as burning calories slower as you eat less.
If you really want to save money, then you need to think in terms of emotions and how to combat that rather than attempting to brute force it with willpower.
Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?
Because emotions rules. It doesn't matter that you know what you have to do, eat well, do exercise, how to prioritize, what's good for you and what's not. Unless you steer your emotions in the right direction, you won't be able to achieve anything, because resistance and stregth of will won't get you very far. And changing your emotions is really hard, because they're mostly formed in your youth, and doing so need a…
This is a exaggeration of course, but I've been struck by just how many sticky problems have an emotional component.
I have a tendency to ignore emotions in favor of (what seems to me like) the main content, but I limit myself when I do this.
Enthusiasm, despair, excitement, fear - these are too powerful to ignore. But naming them and uncovering the deeper values they reveal helps me make better decisions.
For example, I value minimalism and getting rid of junk but routinely put off doing any decluttering.
I realized that what I call "decluttering" is really better termed "making difficult decisions about my identity."
To get rid of that I never use involves confronting the fact that I'm not a person. It's painful to realize that I'm not who I wish I was.
Getting rid of something I spent a lot of money on reveals that I wasted the money. I'm not as wise and frugal as I wish I was.
I put off minimalism because I don't have to feel those bad feelings if I don't force myself to evaluate and make the decisions.
And this scenario plays out in a lot of different areas of my life.
I don't take action toward a goal because I don't want to get excited and then fail and have to face the disappointment. Easier to coast along content with the status quo.
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Because emotions rules. It doesn't matter that you know what you have to do, eat well, do exercise, how to prioritize, what's good for you and what's not. Unless you steer your emotions in the right direction, you won't be able to achieve anything, because resistance and stregth of will won't get you very far. And changing your emotions is really hard, because they're mostly formed in your youth, and doing so need a…
You can consider emotions as a compass. I have found it useful to listen to them, to figure out their cause. We will carry emotions our whole lives, ‘changing’ them doesn’t bring about the insight to actually deal with them. I recommend looking to resources like ‘It’s Not Always Depression’ by Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Strong feelings are typically a sign of a strong desire or fear of something.
"Why does this bother me so much? It's not that big a deal. Oh, because I really want..."
Knowing what I really want makes it easier to take action to get it, especially when the feelings are getting in the way of the goal. (Bad feelings and the fear of bad feelings are often obstacles to making things better.)
Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?
I like this question. Currently, it's rendered in gray font, and it has five answers. I think it's the sort of question that's annoying to think about. It's not a complex technical question with a clearly defined answer you can look up on Wikipedia. It's not even obvious where you should start if you wanted to answer. There is plenty of boring advice out there, but dispensing advice doesn't reliably help people. And…
Sometimes it's obvious: they (or I) posted on the political/politicized intersections of a subject. Downvotes are likely a mix of people who are aggressively opposed to the apparent tilt of the comment and people who are ideologically opposed to anything they see as politics.
Most times, it's no different from any comment I've made that merely sat at 1.
I think there must have been an influx of people in the last half year or so who are more prone to downvote or flag something they disagree with or just don't like. Only someone with access to the vote database could run a more objective analysis, but my anecdotal impression is that HN is getting more downvotey.
Author should explain this: everyone can follow boring advice, so why aren't far more people successful?