Written by judgemental asshole. Since this article is about labeling other people as assholes, I hope it's OK that I did the same.
Sure it's ok. The question is whether it's useful or just a knee-jerk reaction.
The Anatomy of Assholes (2020)
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#12I love the term asshole circumplex.
Indeed. Comedy is usually frowned upon in here, but this article posted is golden. We're all some type of asshole. Definitively a dark eye opener for me.
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#13See: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assholes:_A_Theory Today on the train I saw some bullies. Kids wouldn't let the quieter kid sit with them. What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth. This is just how humans work and certain societies ar…
> What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth.
These two things are not mutually exclusive though. If you want to take your frustrations out on somebody else, you do it on people you can take them out on, not people you can’t.
And yeah, most of those little shits have issues. Just because someone is an asshole doesn’t mean they don’t have anxieties and insecurities that motivate their behavior.
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#14Does anyone think assholes could be defined by using the "D-Factor"? (dark trait factor) .. and why not getting used to the idea, whenever your IQ is tested your D-factor gets tested as well.....
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#16https://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:bzi1yE...
And there was me thinking that the error message was the joke and that I was just not getting it.
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#17See: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assholes:_A_Theory Today on the train I saw some bullies. Kids wouldn't let the quieter kid sit with them. What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth. This is just how humans work and certain societies ar…
Bullying has changed if "wouldn't let .. kid sit with them" counts. If I could not-associate with school bullies I would have.
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#18See: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assholes:_A_Theory Today on the train I saw some bullies. Kids wouldn't let the quieter kid sit with them. What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth. This is just how humans work and certain societies ar…
> What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth. These two things are not mutually exclusive though. If you want to take your frustrations out on somebody else, you do it on people you can take them out on, not people you can’t. And yeah, mos…
I think what I mean is not even taking out frustrations. This behavior doesn't need an a priori frustration. That is the big issue.
I'm able to forgive a frustration. You cut me off, you have a bad day/parent in hospital - I'm able to live with that. That is in stoicism, radical acceptance etc. You do it just because - it's a different animal. "Just because" meaning, you take the power.
I'm finding it hard to discuss social hierarchies. They clearly exist. I suspect they have a much greater influence on many things, depression for example (seems to me like a "self own", making oneself lower in the hierarchy, maybe as a survival strategy, but coming with unintended consequences).
But people are unwilling to talk about it or get political very fast, because it seems to all hint to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Might_Is_Right.
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#19See: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assholes:_A_Theory Today on the train I saw some bullies. Kids wouldn't let the quieter kid sit with them. What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth. This is just how humans work and certain societies ar…
Bullying has changed if "wouldn't let .. kid sit with them" counts. If I could not-associate with school bullies I would have.
There was only one free seat and the quiet kid had to stand because the bullies wouldn't let him sit next to them. That counts as bullying in my book.
Bullying behavior exist also in the bullied: The quiet kid had to appease the bullies.
Train these roles often enough, both parties are on a set course for life.
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#20See: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assholes:_A_Theory Today on the train I saw some bullies. Kids wouldn't let the quieter kid sit with them. What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth. This is just how humans work and certain societies ar…
> What I could see immediately in their eyes is the knowledge that they can just do that. There are no repercussions. There is nothing anybody can do. This works. The bully just lashing out because of his own issues is a myth. These two things are not mutually exclusive though. If you want to take your frustrations out on somebody else, you do it on people you can take them out on, not people you can’t. And yeah, mos…
Take it out on yourself like the rest of us.