Well... we have 3 node MongoDB cluster and are processing up to a million trades... per second. And a trade is way more complex than a chat message. Has tens to hundreds of fields, may require enriching with data from multiple external services and then requires to be stored, be searchable with unknown, arbitrary bitemporal queries and may need multiple downstream systems to be notified depending on a lot of factors…
I got into programming through the Private Server (gaming) scene. You learn that the more you optimize and refactor your code to be more efficient, the more you can handle on less hardware, including embedded systems. So yeah, it's amazing how much is wasted. I'm kind of holding hope that things like Rust and Go focus on letting you get more out of less hardware.