Maybe not a life-changing thing but something that truly unlocked a lot of things: https://milan.cvitkovic.net/writing/things_youre_allowed_to_... HN discussion about it: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25513713
Aw I'm so glad!
Ask HN: What's the most life-changing blog post you've ever read?
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#283"How I found & fixed the root problem behind my depression and anxiety after 20+ years" by Kaj Sotala. It describes the concept of 'self-concept' and a, I guess, pseudo-treatment for addressing deep-set neurosis/anxiety caused by having one that is a little malformed. This post led (in a sort of roundabout way, hitting at a good time in my life and while I was already thinking in the direction of fixing this problem)…
That seems like a very long-winded way of saying he didn't love himself, so he worked to reframe and reinforce positive memories and loving himself. That's pretty standard in metta meditation, you are instructed to direct love and kindness towards yourself.
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#284This post for me contains deep wisdom: https://dhemery.com/articles/resistance_as_a_resource/
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#2857 years ago I had just aborted an internship, my foray into being an employed adult, because I found myself unable to deal with disagreements. Contrary to my naive hope that the confidence boost from being a Professional Software Developer(tm) would solve all my emotional problems I now knew that my limitations would follow me around anywhere I would go. But I had no idea how to change and was too stuck in my own anx…
> It dawned on me that my attempt at completely controlling my life had, in fact, caused me to lose control over it. So many enlightened people have quoted this as the one thing that matters most than anything else. I read this article "This column will change your life"[1] about an Indian philosopher named Jiddu Krishnamurti many many years ago but this passage really stuck with me: Krishnamurti went on to give coun…
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#287Earlier quoted context omitted.
Reminds me of stoicism. If it's outside your control, don't bother too much. Face your challenges and do the best you can, being a better you.
It is very beautiful and interesting to me that Stoics and Buddhists arrived at very similar conclusions despite being thousands of miles apart and having little to no contact.
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#288Might be an odd one for a tech blog but this article is what helped me stop doubting myself and start my transition.
https://freethoughtblogs.com/nataliereed/2012/04/17/the-null...
The main point of the article is that for trans people our priors are way way off and if we asked ourselves "what's more likely, that I'm trans or that I'm cis?" instead of "am I really sure I'm trans?" then the answer is painfully obvious and the weird doubts we obsess over are nothing compared to the mountain of evidence in support.
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#2897 years ago I had just aborted an internship, my foray into being an employed adult, because I found myself unable to deal with disagreements. Contrary to my naive hope that the confidence boost from being a Professional Software Developer(tm) would solve all my emotional problems I now knew that my limitations would follow me around anywhere I would go. But I had no idea how to change and was too stuck in my own anx…
Reminds me of stoicism. If it's outside your control, don't bother too much. Face your challenges and do the best you can, being a better you.
Somewhat. At a higher level being a stoic, gets you closer to the Buddhist mindset. Buddhism tends to differ in its acknowledgment that the active practice of stoicism (as a discipline) is still a pursuit, and thus still a means to assert control.
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#290https://blog.tjcx.me/p/consume-less-create-more This article inspired me on two things : 1) Lots of the things I do in everyday life is just to consume: buying, watching, following, etc. These things either consume my money, or my time. These things make me feel good, but it does not generate real value. In order to get rich, I need to create things. I also start to realize that great people are great because they st…
> In order to get rich, I need to create things.
Why do you want to get rich?
I've been thrilled to have a life of consuming and not creating.