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It feels like my reflexes are a good bit slower.
Any idea how I can simulate that environment and practice those skills or maybe just solve the problem another way
Just come into the group with your preconceived agenda, and ignore what everyone else is saying.
Most fast talkers are not clever; they are loaded with prerecorded messages that they assert into the available gaps in the air space. Just come into the group with your preconceived agenda, and ignore what everyone else is saying.
I will often take a second or two before I answer anyone, but when I do (and if I am excited) I talk too fast.
Some people want to belong to a group. Some need the group to get something done. Some want to control how a group thinks etc etc. And the path you take will be different in each case. So think about what need of yours you are trying to meet.
In general they will pay attention to you if you show you have some value to them. Simplest way is to just show them you are paying attention to their views. Reflect it back. "so what you saying is...". Do it in a genuine non judgemental way. If its a formal meetings send out email summarizing the discussion acknowledging all sides and issues.
You should have something to say. That always helps.
Once you have ground, you don't have to talk fast. Talk normally and your listeners will adapt to your speed. You can control the speed of conversation just by slowing it down yourself.
People who like to talk and can do so quickly? I can't say I've met many who like to listen, so maybe listening as a strategy would be the better bet for this group.
Most fast talkers are not clever; they are loaded with prerecorded messages that they assert into the available gaps in the air space. Just come into the group with your preconceived agenda, and ignore what everyone else is saying.
As a "fast talker" myself, I feel the need to point out there is a difference between talking fast and responding fast. I will often take a second or two before I answer anyone, but when I do (and if I am excited) I talk too fast.
I believe fast talkers need to work on their listening skills. Not just be busting to say their next thing.
I also see a compulsion or need in some people to walk through their thought process. This can be a problem when listeners got the jist several sentences back. The speaker satisfies a need while the listeners are bored.
It's not so much the speed of talking that is a challenge as that the rest of the group are much quicker to respond or jump in when there is a pause.
Consequently Its very hard to say what I want to say.
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As a "fast talker" myself, I feel the need to point out there is a difference between talking fast and responding fast. I will often take a second or two before I answer anyone, but when I do (and if I am excited) I talk too fast.
Good point. Fast thinking and fast talking are two different things. I believe fast talkers need to work on their listening skills. Not just be busting to say their next thing. I also see a compulsion or need in some people to walk through their thought process. This can be a problem when listeners got the jist several sentences back. The speaker satisfies a need while the listeners are bored.
In Japan, there is a celebrity known as Kuroyanagi Tetsuko.
Practically the queen of "hayakuchi", this elderly lady talks a mile a minute, but people listen.
https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E9%BB%92%E6%9F%B3%E5%BE%B9%E5...