Dating in Delhi when you're poor

Post by 908B64B197 » Fri, Aug 06, 2021, 9:18 PM UTC

johncena33 wrote: post #47

sombremesa wrote: post #7

My first thought when reading this was hoping that these types of articles will reduce the comments I see on the internet that try and compare Delhi/Mumbai squalor to LA. Then I read the first comment on this HN thread, which is directly comparing this to Toronto. So either Westerners don't realize that people in these places are making less money in a month than the middle class person can expect to spend in an aver…

> Then I read the first comment on this HN thread, which is directly comparing this to Toronto. > [...] Reminds me of learning a new language, where beginners try to formulate thoughts in their native tongue and produce a direct translation, whereas those who are fluent can skip that step completely. Immigrant brown man living in Toronto here. I don't have any dating life. Because dating a brown man is stigmatized, t…

Post by sombremesa » Fri, Aug 06, 2021, 9:28 PM UTC

_y5hn wrote: post #104

sombremesa wrote: post #93

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> I don't know what the solution is for trying to promote better cross cultural understanding. I think that's just it: trying to promote better cross cultural understanding. That's something I tried with the GP here, but I could probably write up an article to be linked to in such discussions. > metrics like "How many meals per day do you get?" and "What kind of shelter do you have?" I think this is a good thought, a…

India has lots of villages, slums and people in between having very poor material standards compared to Western countries. But people are also much more interconnected, rely on each other and find ways to get by. So to get that culture, you have to spend at least 6 months and really get to know what family values are, and how things tend to work out. It's very different than the lonely individualist countries. Many I…

Post by b9a2cab5 » Fri, Aug 06, 2021, 9:28 PM UTC

RHSeeger wrote: post #103

chinchilla2020 wrote: post #37

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Even with cost of living comparisons, an American making minimum wage can easily afford a mobile phone, particularly a cheap $25 phone. In many parts of the world that mobile phone will require substantial budgeting over several months to afford.

> an American making minimum wage can easily afford a mobile phone, particularly a cheap $25 phone It's probably worth noting that "easily" probably doesn't belong in there for a lot of people. This is a really good read, if you're interested https://residentcontrarian.substack.com/p/on-the-experience-...

Post by [deleted] » Fri, Aug 06, 2021, 9:29 PM UTC

derefr wrote: post #61

chinchilla2020 wrote: post #46

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He is not gatekeeping being poor. He is pointing out that being poor in Toronto is not the same as being poor in Delhi. You are trying to lump two things together into a category that are not even remotely comparable.

There are two distinct experiences being discussed here: the experience of living in absolute poverty; and the experience of being down-and-out in a city you can't afford the cost-of-living of (i.e. "relative" poverty — the kind you could in theory get away from by "moving somewhere cheaper", but where for various reasons people don't tend to do that.) Both the poor person in Toronto and the poor person in Delhi are…

Post by DoreenMichele » Fri, Aug 06, 2021, 9:30 PM UTC

lapsed_pacifist wrote: post #122

DoreenMichele wrote: post #117

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First, some people took it and some did not. Yet you are trying to suggest we judge all homeless based on those who did not without knowing any further details. Damn them all to hell because some were offered housing and said "no." A lot of services offered to the homeless are really terrible. I never stayed in a shelter while homeless. They have rules that make it just shy of being a form of prison, they tend to not…

I'm interested in reading more of your writing. I worked with TANF recipients, many of whom were homeless (although few of them were unsheltered) and would like to hear more of your perspective because I have some exposure personally, and also because there is a serious problem with providing services to a large number of homeless people in my local area.