> Consider doctors, who are extremely busy in their profession. Although, doctors do not spend enough time talking to their children, somehow they turn out to be alright.
Is this something you know, or is it something you think is true? The reason I ask is because there are quite a lot of doctors in my extended family, and they spend a lot of time with their children. That’s obviously very anecdotal, but working long hours and sometimes being called in to perform long acute surgeries doesn’t seem to impact their family lives much.
Part of this is financial. You simply have more time when you pay other people to clean your house, do your laundry and keep your garden and can get restaurant quality take-away delivered when you’re too exhausted to cook. Aside from paying people to do things, you also expend so much less energy when you never worry about money.
Another part could be the kind of people they are. I have ADHD and while I’m well functional and have been for years, I just don’t have enough energy to lead a life that’s on equal grounds with my counterparts in other municipalities, even with medication. As a result I’ve had to balance my work-life and my career so that I only rarely work more than 37 hours in a week (paid lunch and extended travel times included) and when I do work more hours, I make sure to work less as soon as possible so that the total gets to be 37 hours per week over the year. I have absolutely no regrets sacrifice a little of my career (which is of course made easy that it is still a great career despite the sacrifices) to have more energy for my family. It did affect me when I had my first child, which is where only having energy for 1.5 full time jobs first caught up with me, and I was quite depressed I couldn’t lead the life I had planned. Once things “fell into place for me mentally” I’ve never looked back. Here, years later, I’m actively trying to find ways to work even less. The reason I use myself as an example here is because my cousin is a leading surgeon with a doctor wife and 3 children, and he is able to put as much energy into his children as I am without the sacrifices.
Becoming a doctor is extremely taxing in my country, so it goes to reason that the people who come through it are simply people who are fortune in the energy and structure department. Which could likely also helping them to have more energy over all to invest in their children.
This is anecdotal like I said, maybe the doctors in my family are just special, but unless you have some sort of data to back your claim, you might want to be careful about your assumptions.