Ask HN: Do you regret having children? • Hacker News Board

Re: Ask HN: Do you regret having children?

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Post by raydalio0705 » Sun, Jul 11, 2021, 8:59 AM UTC

IggleSniggle wrote: post #50

raydalio0705 wrote: post #39

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think though the overly positive replies in this thread are a bit... misleading. And frankly read a lot like something extremely religious people would write about their newfound religion. It doesn't read like rational discourse. Of course, once you already have children , you are not going to be regretting it. It would just feel horrible to do so. The children, no matter how difficult they might make your life, ar…

I am one of those people you are describing, and I actually 100% agree with your assessment! But I think I was fair: as I said in original reply elsewhere (not this thread), it may be Stockholm syndrome, but once you’re in you can’t help but be all-in. It is necessary to remain sane, and thus, it changes you. The only useful semi-rational heuristic I can ascribe to my general stance is that: before I had kids, life w…

Thank you - that makes sense. Also reading the thread originally I thought your comment was the most helpful.

Re: Ask HN: Do you regret having children?

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Post by sevrinsky » Tue, Jul 13, 2021, 8:01 AM UTC

LVB wrote: post #23

No. But I do somewhat regret waiting fairly long to have them. It was certainly a trade off, and being kid-free for our earlier years certainly gave my wife and I the freedom to do as we pleased and establish solid careers without having to factor kids in all the time. The flip side is that I wish I had my younger body and energy now that we do have kids. They are very taxing, and I would sometimes like to be more al…

Completely agree:

My eldest was born when I was 24, and my youngest when I was 30. Now at 49, we're approaching empty-nest-hood -- other than the copious time we spent with our 2-year-old grandson. But at least we get to sleep....

Re: Ask HN: Do you regret having children?

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Post by e9 » Tue, Jul 13, 2021, 9:34 PM UTC

bewareandaware wrote: post #40

blacktriangle wrote: post #26

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Easy to drop those allergy and autism rates to 0 if you don't vaccinate. And before you reflexively hit the downvote button, go look up autism and allergy rates in countries that don't vaccinate. Meanwhile general nutrition and sanitation has done more to eliminate disease than vaccination ever did.

Got a link for that? That's the argument I keep hearing from my ecofreak friends, I honestly didn't expect to read it on HN

You got to be careful here. Countries that don’t vaccinate also don’t care to diagnose autism. For example, according to this site(https://www.marketwatch.com/story/this-is-the-most-anti-vaxx...) the most antivax country in the world is Ukraine and they definitely not up to par with US on diagnosing autism according to their autism awareness project: https://child.ua/en/projects/autism-awareness-ukraine/

Re: Ask HN: Do you regret having children?

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Post by cauliflower99 » Wed, Jul 14, 2021, 2:03 PM UTC

28yo M. I have a 6-month old daughter.

Cons: It's difficult. It's time consuming. I have less time for my hobbies. I get less sleep. I have more arguments with my wife. I save less money. I see my friends less. I rarely go out to the pub anymore. It is a huge sacrifice.

Pros: All the cons and everything else.

Conclusion: My daughter has been the greatest gift I have received.