Creators are typically selling their own creation while influencers are using their reputation to sell something other than their creation. The relationship between the audience is different and it is problematic when an audience member does not realize that.
While I am not a particularly good person to comment upon broad social perceptions, I also disagree with the assertions of the influencer label being gendered. In the world of YouTube, there are plenty of men who use their influence to sell something other than their own creation. Publishers don't send a game key to a "let's play" channel for review purposes just as a test equipment manufacturer doesn't send an oscilloscope to an electronics channel for review purposes. The intent is to have an influencer use their product. It sounds like more than a few of those channels are conscious of this distinction in their chase after actual sponsorships.