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Bumble closes to give 'burnt-out' staff a week's break

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Re: Bumble closes to give 'burnt-out' staff a week's break

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Post by daybadone »

silicon2401 wrote: post #22
asim wrote: post #2

Good. We're taking all of July off at my company. Why? Because covid was an incredibly hard period for all of us and we as humans need a break. Somehow we all just seem to expect things to keep going like nothing changed. We all just seem to be expected to gloss over the pains of isolation, potential death and stress of work and life with no separation or boundaries. We made a conscious decision at my place of work t…

This is a very subjective statement. The pandemic has been bar none the best period of my life. Increased physical and social distance from other people, no need to emote in public thanks to masks, no need to commute, greater accommodation for non-social options like self-checkouts. My physical and mental health have skyrocketed, and as a result I feel like I've been on vacation for a year and half, despite only taki…

I despise you.

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Post by daybadone »

moonshinefe wrote: post #114
ramesh31 wrote: post #69

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I've never been so envious of happily married people in my life. Being single throughout this ordeal has broken me mentally, particularly at an age (31) where I'm staring down the last couple years of being able to meet someone my age. And the prospects coming out of it are grim. For people with a happy home life, this may have been a good time. But for the isolated, work from home, single people with no long term so…

I'm a little older but not by a lot, and was in a similar situation where I was in my early 30s where I felt my window for getting things done in life was closing and I didn't have a relationship and felt socially isolated in general (for different reasons since it wasn't covid 19 at the time, but still). Things were looking incredibly bleak for me. But things can change awfully fast even if it seems hopeless, don't…

Clubs are closed. What clubs? not everyone lives in America.

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Post by daybadone »

claytongulick wrote: post #249
Dracophoenix wrote: post #206

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How did exactly did you treat people in your 20's?

I could probably best describe it as non-malicious unintentional callous disregard, coupled with a belief that I'd mostly figured everything out - and a deep-seated need to always be "right" and "win". I had not yet learned that at the point where there is an argument, both people have already lost.

that's funny, I started where you are and as I have aged I have started to find myself unable to increasingly see people as just walking talking pieces of meat that I need to exploit to meet my own needs, or be left without.

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Post by daybadone »

cfcf14 wrote: post #127
dstick wrote: post #107

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I’m afraid that’s quite a bit of self referential bias. So let me raise your hopes with some of mine: I met my wife when she was 30 and already had 2 kids. We’ve been together for 16 years now, got 2 daughters (so 4 children in total), and are nothing like the individuals we were 16 years ago. We’ve grown together, we’ve grown separately - we’ve changed yearly. Since you’re aware of it now: don’t become an individual…

Thanks for sharing this lovely anecdote, and for the positive sentiment. Unfortunately I do agree with the person you're replying to - these days, it is vanishingly unlikely to find a partner past your early 30s. Only a tiny proportion of the adult population in most western countries is single, and asymmetries in the dating pool induced by modern modes of meeting people (ie: apps) have radically upended traditional…

I am genuinely finding myself unable to even come up with an argument against why, with todays dating landscape, a guy in his 30s isn't better off literally teying to kidnap and rape women to get them pregnant, then keep hostage long enough that abortion is impossible.

Might genuinely be the better odds for not failing to reproduce than actually dating. I eont like this but I'm completely serious.in that I cannot think why it isn't true anymore.

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Post by mLuby »

gpm wrote: post #203
coredog64 wrote: post #200

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> not a giraffe fighting expert I think it's hilarious that HN needs such a disclaimer.

I was originally trying to come up with an interesting acronym like IANAL (I am not a lawyer), but gave up ;)

Lots of FAANG people on here (Fighting An Antagonized Naked Giraffe).

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Post by Dracophoenix »

bradlys wrote: post #266
Dracophoenix wrote: post #226

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Would you say that the gender ratio also counts against you as a factor? Do you think you would be probably better off dating transnationally or internationally? Oh, and what kind of Bimmer?

135is convertible. Sporty, outrageously loud, and full of fun. I’d get a 1M but no drop top kills it for me. Also, I don’t have to feel as bad for driving it because a 1M is a collectible now. Gender ratio is definitely horrible. Likely the worst factor against straight men. It’s obvious everywhere. Dating in other cities is likely a lot better (especially not on the west coast AFAICT). It’s no surprise that most lon…

Is dating really that bad across the entire west coast? Seattle, Portland, Los Angeles, and San Diego included? As far as your own dating life is concerned, what do you intend to do for yourself given how bad the circumstances are for you?

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Post by jobigoud »

hh3k0 wrote: post #33
silicon2401 wrote: post #22

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This is a very subjective statement. The pandemic has been bar none the best period of my life. Increased physical and social distance from other people, no need to emote in public thanks to masks, no need to commute, greater accommodation for non-social options like self-checkouts. My physical and mental health have skyrocketed, and as a result I feel like I've been on vacation for a year and half, despite only taki…

> no need to emote in public thanks to masks I will miss that. I liked not being told that I look angry or that I should smile sometimes.

I intend to keep the mask on at the grocery store even after the pandemic. I hope it won't be stigmatized.

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Post by dvfjsdhgfv »

flavius29663 wrote: post #197
dvfjsdhgfv wrote: post #188

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Of course, but for all we know this extra week could be the only paid vacation they have since for some reason in the USA there is no concept of mandatory paid vacation.

> for all we know If you had any idea on how US orgs work, you wouldn't say that. First, just because the government doesn't impose something, it doesn't mean companies can't do it. In fact, companies so much more for their employees than the government dictates. It's the same for minimum wage: the federal government might be stuck at 7.25, but in practice low pay jobs are more than that: Walmart was 11 last time I c…

> Most US tech workers have around 20 days of PTO

Do you have any source for that? My limited research[0] shows it's closer to 15 - and sometimes, as you say, this includes sick days. It can't be compared to Europe where you have 4 weeks, guaranteed, for any industry, plus sick days - and many cou. Fortunately WfH greatly reduced the strain reduced with working in the office (commuting, open spaces, not being able to use your time more efficiently), but for non-office workers the problem still remains: you spend your life working and you barely have time to even stop and think why you're doing all this. Family life suffers, Cat's Cradle and all. It's all really wrong.

[0] https://www.advanced-hr.com/vcReport/2016-Sequoia-Benchmarki...

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Post by DrBazza »

TechBro8615 wrote: post #46
DrBazza wrote: post #43

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> Increased physical and social distance from other people I believe for many people, this is more because "everyone else does it" and the general "miserable office atmosphere" in our industry. I'm not accusing the OP of anything by the way. I would have said that I was in the group of "you've said hello, that's enough social contact for one day", yet after 15 months, at least according to friends and family, I'm mor…

As a (currently, sort of) introvert, I agree with both you and the parent. I also had a great time during the pandemic. But I was behaving exactly as I was before, when I was depressed. The difference is that now everyone else – even celebrities and Instagram party girls – were suddenly living my lifestyle, and that gave me a sense of comfort. It meant that I no longer felt like I was letting the world pass me by, be…

I'm "old" by the standards on here, in fact retirement isn't too far away if I want it, and I'm genuinely intrigued by how my personality is going to change once I'm no longer working. I see the last 15 months or so as a trial run, and it's been great.

I'm dreading going to back to the office if I'm honest.

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Post by halfdan »

kritiko wrote: post #271
Scoundreller wrote: post #259

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Doesn’t the “P” mean paid?

if you leave your job, the company has to pay for your unused vacation days as part of your severance if you have a set number of vacation days.

In that case just take PTO before handing in your notice.
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