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Troubled teens left traumatised by tough love camps

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Post by estaseuropano »

DoreenMichele wrote: post #45

Cynthia remembers her daughter as a bright, thoughtful and athletic young girl who had always done well academically until she began suffering from mental health problems aged 14. Her struggles led her to become suicidal and begin experimenting with illegal drugs. When Erica was admitted to hospital and excluded from school, the family felt frightened and out of their depth. I am reminded of this piece from a few day…

1. There is a connection between physical and mental health and one can ruin the other, but they are not identical. Even a physically healthy person may have mental trouble.

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Post by agumonkey »

throwaway_egbs wrote: post #4

I was sent to an “emotional growth boarding school” in the ‘90s. I wasn’t kidnapped but many of my schoolmates were. A few years later the department of education (can’t remember if it was state or federal) shut the school down after stories got out about the horrific things that were going on there. Kids forced to sit in corners for days at a time, ambulances not being called for kids who had very seriously self-har…

I see Evergreen College has ancestry

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Post by XorNot »

gverrilla wrote: post #32

"the world is hard so lemme hit you really hard so you learn fast what reality looks like and can fight back" this, is one or another form, goes around A LOT still.

Boomer's as an entire generation are addicted to the idea that all problems are solved by just yelling at people or committing violence against them.

Not to say humanity has collectively improved, but the age group which tends to "wonder" if corporal punishment should be brought back has always been very specific when I encounter it.

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Post by titzer »

RobLach wrote: post #39

"When I was your age I got whooped all the time and I came out alright" says the parent who did not come out alright, left with an internalized belief that abusing children is totally fine.

No, the ones who come out alright get whooped just once.

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Post by roystonvassey »

endisneigh wrote: post #23
throwaway_egbs wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Thanks. I understand why my parents did what they did. I was addicted to meth and probably would’ve wound up dead without a serious intervention. Out of the frying pan, into the fire. (Clean and sober now.)

In retrospect do you believe there may be a better solution to the problems you faced then?

Locking up kids and controlling them surely can be bettered?

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estaseuropano wrote: post #51
DoreenMichele wrote: post #45

Cynthia remembers her daughter as a bright, thoughtful and athletic young girl who had always done well academically until she began suffering from mental health problems aged 14. Her struggles led her to become suicidal and begin experimenting with illegal drugs. When Erica was admitted to hospital and excluded from school, the family felt frightened and out of their depth. I am reminded of this piece from a few day…

1. There is a connection between physical and mental health and one can ruin the other, but they are not identical. Even a physically healthy person may have mental trouble. 2. If you want to start blogging, the bar today is lower than ever. Choose a name that resonates, and at the lowest and easiest level just get a WordPress blog with a domain. If things go well you can always upgrade to something else. 3. Try rere…

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Post by Jach »

ganzuul wrote: post #19
sasaf5 wrote: post #15

Institutionalizing someone without even telling them will completely sever any trust. Who thought this would be a good idea?

The kind of parent who thinks TV is a cheap babysitter.

No, it requires a parent way more invested into outsourcing the whole job of parenting than a typical lazy parent just letting the TV et al. handle things as much as possible. The lazy parent would just continue letting the TV handle things even when things aren't going so well, and hey on average it's probably an improvement over the parent who sends/has kidnapped their kids off to these places, since the TV can't physically abuse anyone.
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